Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
No, you can't work that specific part.whatdude said:
Abs are SO built in the weight room. If you don't involve the abs in exercises, they won't grow. You need to isolate them or to do heavy compound movements that invlve the core stabilizers (abs part of this).snareknight08 said:The best exercise to get your \ / defined is to do leg lifts from what I understand. You lay flat on your back and grab your butt then keep your legs together and lift them. That also works your lower abs. Another thing though, abs will never "bulge" like your arms and legs so really exercising is I won't say useless but it's not going to make them show up. I've had this misconception for a long time but it's just simply not true. DIET is the key factor in building abs. "Abs are built in the kitchen, not in the weight room".
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sorry, didn't mean to offend as it seems I have. Let me explain my reasoning to what seems to you like a bunch of nonsense. The thing is, if you have flab covering your abs in the first place no amount of leg lifts, crunches or anything else is going to make your abs show up until you get rid of all the fat that is covering them. That's where diet comes in. Everybody has abs even the lardass in the corner over there in class. That's no hard thing to understand but how the hell is he going to show off them beauties? He's GOT TO DIET. And that was just an extreme example even if you are 10-20 lbs over your BMI you'll still need to diet to get off that excess weight. Also everybody I know that has DEFINED abs is on the low end of their BMI unless they have a huge body build (and I can't say I know anybody with a big build that has abs). Take it from someone with that build, they aren't easy to get. I'm trying now and once I get this fat off I know they'll show. NOW FOR YOUR POINT. EXERCISE is key to defining them and defining them only, not getting them. Now, if all he's wanting to do is define them I wasted my time, his, and everyone elses that disagrees with me.brucevangeorge said:
I have a larger body build, have fat on me and still have my abs. they're the two at the top, right?snareknight08 said:
Julian said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Great idea! Get yourself one of those riding bulls see and then....Soprano said:
When you are ab crunching your body weight x 2 and leg raising 70+ pounds with good form on a regular basis, you can and will have visible abs even at higher body fat levels.snareknight08 said:
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If you have 6.5% bodyfat your abs should be visible. That is of course if you HAD any to begin with. You need more muscle, your abs don;t show because you have none. You can go to as low as 2% bodyfat.. it won't matter if you don't have the muscle.whatdude said: