How to know if this girl is just playing with me.In my opinion she's playing push and pull on me.She has a boyfriend but i think she's deep into me cause she's flirting and giving me signs of attraction.The next moment she's cold and plays deep in love with her boyfriend.WTF?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Wondering about this girl
- Thread starter Sali
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Igetit!
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I'd like to hear what these "deep signs" are,even though I doubt it matters.So you think she's into you because she's giving you "deep signs of attraction",and yet,she has a boyfriend. Hmm. Tell me,which do you think is better...to be getting deep signs of attraction from a girl,or to have sex with her,which her boyfriend is doing? Time to wake up and smell the coffee man. You can stop wondering.Sali said:
She's playing you.
She uses you to get attention,while getting sex from her boyfriend.
It's a perfect setup for her. Basically,she's having her cake and eating it too.
There's 3 people here: You,this girl,and her boyfriend. The girl is getting her emotional fix from you and getting sex from her boyfriend. The boyfriend is getting sex from this girl,and you....umm...what was it you're getting again?
She'll keep this going on as long as she can.
If you want to continue to be a sucker for this emotional leech,then be our guest,have at it.
Otherwise,stand up,be a man,and go find you a woman who wants to be with you,not some bratty little girl playing high school games.
Oh...and welcome to the forum.
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She's playing with you. She is just flirting and having fun which most men and women do when in a relationship and you are reading too much into things. She is pushing and pulling for fun, she is unattainable and it would be in your best interest to tell her to "get lost".Sali said:
I fell into this trap a few years ago and I felt like an idiot, because she played me for a right fool, do not make the same mistake I did and waste months chasing someone who isn't interested and is committed to someone else.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.