How to know if this girl is just playing with me.In my opinion she's playing push and pull on me.She has a boyfriend but i think she's deep into me cause she's flirting and giving me signs of attraction.The next moment she's cold and plays deep in love with her boyfriend.WTF?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Wondering about this girl
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Igetit!
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I'd like to hear what these "deep signs" are,even though I doubt it matters.So you think she's into you because she's giving you "deep signs of attraction",and yet,she has a boyfriend. Hmm. Tell me,which do you think is better...to be getting deep signs of attraction from a girl,or to have sex with her,which her boyfriend is doing? Time to wake up and smell the coffee man. You can stop wondering.Sali said:
She's playing you.
She uses you to get attention,while getting sex from her boyfriend.
It's a perfect setup for her. Basically,she's having her cake and eating it too.
There's 3 people here: You,this girl,and her boyfriend. The girl is getting her emotional fix from you and getting sex from her boyfriend. The boyfriend is getting sex from this girl,and you....umm...what was it you're getting again?
She'll keep this going on as long as she can.
If you want to continue to be a sucker for this emotional leech,then be our guest,have at it.
Otherwise,stand up,be a man,and go find you a woman who wants to be with you,not some bratty little girl playing high school games.
Oh...and welcome to the forum.
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She's playing with you. She is just flirting and having fun which most men and women do when in a relationship and you are reading too much into things. She is pushing and pulling for fun, she is unattainable and it would be in your best interest to tell her to "get lost".Sali said:
I fell into this trap a few years ago and I felt like an idiot, because she played me for a right fool, do not make the same mistake I did and waste months chasing someone who isn't interested and is committed to someone else.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.