How to know if this girl is just playing with me.In my opinion she's playing push and pull on me.She has a boyfriend but i think she's deep into me cause she's flirting and giving me signs of attraction.The next moment she's cold and plays deep in love with her boyfriend.WTF?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Wondering about this girl
- Thread starter Sali
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Igetit!
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I'd like to hear what these "deep signs" are,even though I doubt it matters.So you think she's into you because she's giving you "deep signs of attraction",and yet,she has a boyfriend. Hmm. Tell me,which do you think is better...to be getting deep signs of attraction from a girl,or to have sex with her,which her boyfriend is doing? Time to wake up and smell the coffee man. You can stop wondering.Sali said:
She's playing you.
She uses you to get attention,while getting sex from her boyfriend.
It's a perfect setup for her. Basically,she's having her cake and eating it too.
There's 3 people here: You,this girl,and her boyfriend. The girl is getting her emotional fix from you and getting sex from her boyfriend. The boyfriend is getting sex from this girl,and you....umm...what was it you're getting again?
She'll keep this going on as long as she can.
If you want to continue to be a sucker for this emotional leech,then be our guest,have at it.
Otherwise,stand up,be a man,and go find you a woman who wants to be with you,not some bratty little girl playing high school games.
Oh...and welcome to the forum.
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She's playing with you. She is just flirting and having fun which most men and women do when in a relationship and you are reading too much into things. She is pushing and pulling for fun, she is unattainable and it would be in your best interest to tell her to "get lost".Sali said:
I fell into this trap a few years ago and I felt like an idiot, because she played me for a right fool, do not make the same mistake I did and waste months chasing someone who isn't interested and is committed to someone else.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.