You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
No drink since 7/2017
I was just laughing abour their nature
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Problem i see is when you get one you really like and then end up giving her all the power because walking away is much harder.
Thats why we cry and complain. When they dont get most of the power things usually work better.
And theyre happier that way too. When man doesnt give much power.U should say thank you 2 Spaz..
And u r right goodstuff
Happier but still make you struggle and fight for it
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Struggle and fight to have your OWN peace and security. Peace and security you would have if you werent dealing with them.
or you could be alone, sometimes is better be alone then a annoying ***** who don't have any value, its like old things sometimes you keep a broken thing over jsut because you think it can be fixed later, but then it just sit there getting in the way, when we should just have tossed that in the garbage a long time ago
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Holy shyt. So whats there positive to look forward to?
Ah, the million dollar question.
Some women where raised to be supportive and loving. They tend to be trashed out by players. They still exist i talk to a few . they usually are 1-2 pts down vs a vain hoe on physical but they will be loyal and work hard to please.
