"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women that smoke

051AV

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It has to be the biggest turn off for me, no matter how good looking they are if they smoke its a deal breaker for me. A couple women I've been trying to get to know one is mid 20s the other mid 30s both decent looking women...... had my suspicions they smoked...... found out they do smoke. I'm talking about cigarettes, women that smoke pot is also a turn off.

The mid 20s girl I think, really why in the hell would you want to smoke its a nasty habit that ages you, and no guy wants to kiss an ashtray, I also think the same thought with the mid 30s girl.

What's your guy's thoughts smoking a deal breaker?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It has to be the biggest turn off for me, no matter how good looking they are if they smoke its a deal breaker for me. A couple women I've been trying to get to know one is mid 20s the other mid 30s both decent looking women...... had my suspicions they smoked...... found out they do smoke. I'm talking about cigarettes, women that smoke pot is also a turn off.

The mid 20s girl I think, really why in the hell would you want to smoke its a nasty habit that ages you, and no guy wants to kiss an ashtray, I also think the same thought with the mid 30s girl.

What's your guy's thoughts smoking a deal breaker?
What does "trying to get to know" even mean?
 

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I don't see it as a deal breaker, but certainly not a good sign for a person. It means their mouth will smell occasionally or more often than that AND it means they choose a rather damaging way of handling stress in life.
 

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If it's 1 or 2 cigarettes, on occasion more, not a problem. However, if she smokes a pack a day, I have to wonder of her level of self-control.

Chicks with no self-control, cannot be trusted. Huge red flag!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Its kinda what I thought women that smoke is a turn off/deal breaker for most guys. When I seen my ex light up a smoke for the first time I said what are you doing. She only smoked when she was stressed she knew I didn't like her smoking so she didn't do it while we were together. Her current BF smokes like a chimney so I imagine she's smoking just as much as him.

A pack of cigarettes in Western Canada is on average 15 dollars some people smoke 2 packs a day not sure how they can afford it. Women that smoke I can't even think of them sexually, the smell affects their body odor right down to their feet, no thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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We have this hot Asian girl working in HR killer body and all but when I saw her outside smoking I just totally got turned off..
 

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Well if they only smoke when they drink like I do, then it's ok. I can go a couple weeks without touching a cigarette, and like I said I only smoke when drinking.

Besides, you miss out on a lot of chances with girls, or meeting new people if you dont smoke when you go on a night out. I've pulled a fair amount of girls from the smoking area of clubs alone.

Scientific studies show regular smoking is what ages you, not irregular small sessions of a couple cigs while you drink once a week.

If they smoke while sober, and daily, then yea it's a problem. On the upside girls who smoke a lot tend to be quite kinky and good in bed.

I guess for me the smell is not too bad. I grew up with my dad smoking in the house. Therefore the smell of cigarettes on someone won't bother me as much as someone who did not grow up with a smoker in the household.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You are such a tough guy. Omg.

Mods: Why is this allowed?

PS: Are you black?


its allowed for the same reason you telling people to "suck your robot c0ck" is allowed. and the same reason you crying about women on here and how much you hate them and how beta and ugly you are is allowed.
 

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If she smokes tobacco no.....If weed I have no problem with it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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