"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Inspired from what I read in another thread earlier about women seeking advantage over men.

Case in point; my new female lodger has just asked me if she left £20 on the table for coke we were going to get coming back late Saturday night. Now I know for a fact she didn't give em any money, she transfers me from her bank whatever she owes me, including rent etc. I say there is no £20 and I've never seen any (truth is she owes me about £60 which given the difference in take-home pay I've waived mentally).

She then says lets get some coke, I'm like... babe it's Wednesday. I'm currently cooking seasoned chicken, potatos veg etc to feed us for lunch and dinner up til Saturday while she's out presumably drinking.

I went out Monday with a chick, Tuesday with a chick, Tuesday night she gets home and complains about the kitchen, I tell her I'm staying in until Friday so will do it then. Seriously I'm being nagged by a fvcking lodger, she's basically my employee, my minion, she has definitely used the fact I earn good money to her advantage.

I have started asking her for any money she owes to be transferred immediately. I'm giving her a place to stay where she has none for £300 ($400) less per month than market rate. I can feel she's taking my kindness for weakness only 4 weeks into living with me, so I've slowly regressed, become more stern, more concerned with other women (I let this current situation consume me slightly). She definitely has addiction problems.

Today I went with her to a mortgage broker on our lunch break, she has £360-£400k to drop on a flat looking for £100k mortgage from a lender - unheard of for a first-time buyer unless mega rich. I feel like taxing her when that money comes through.

Just needed to vent.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Inspired from what I read in another thread earlier about women seeking advantage over men.

Case in point; my new female lodger has just asked me if she left £20 on the table for coke we were going to get coming back late Saturday night. Now I know for a fact she didn't give em any money, she transfers me from her bank whatever she owes me, including rent etc. I say there is no £20 and I've never seen any (truth is she owes me about £60 which given the difference in take-home pay I've waived mentally).

She then says lets get some coke, I'm like... babe it's Wednesday. I'm currently cooking seasoned chicken, potatos veg etc to feed us for lunch and dinner up til Saturday while she's out presumably drinking.

I went out Monday with a chick, Tuesday with a chick, Tuesday night she gets home and complains about the kitchen, I tell her I'm staying in until Friday so will do it then. Seriously I'm being nagged by a fvcking lodger, she's basically my employee, my minion, she has definitely used the fact I earn good money to her advantage.

I have started asking her for any money she owes to be transferred immediately. I'm giving her a place to stay where she has none for £300 ($400) less per month than market rate. I can feel she's taking my kindness for weakness only 4 weeks into living with me, so I've slowly regressed, become more stern, more concerned with other women (I let this current situation consume me slightly). She definitely has addiction problems.

Today I went with her to a mortgage broker on our lunch break, she has £360-£400k to drop on a flat looking for £100k mortgage from a lender - unheard of for a first-time buyer unless mega rich. I feel like taxing her when that money comes through.

Just needed to vent.
are you the guy who said hesletting female live with him regardless whole forum saying no?


and you donteven have the balls to kick her. xD
 
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First off she is my friend and I've always been a support unit for my friends. You would love a friend like me. Plus she is paying me, and cooking and cleaning... company too.

What's your point?
 

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First off she is my friend and I've always been a support unit for my friends. You would love a friend like me. Plus she is paying me, and cooking and cleaning... company too.

What's your point?
maybe shes jealous about the fatties you sleep with so she doesnt want to pay back?
 

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Ok so I slept in her bed last night. She was out meeting a friend after work so I came home and cooked/cleaned kitchen with a couple glasses of vino.

She comes back we chill, she has a blanket she doesn't want to share and tells me if I want it, I'll have to come over there, so I say "ok but I'll have to spoon you" - so we chill spooning/cuddling then I say I need to go to bed. She is either asleep or pretending, so I wake her up and carry her to bed. She says "you can come in my room man" so I put her on bed and lay on her, I get under the covers and we spoon/sleep.

Prob best feeling I've had in a while, I feel so happy over something so little it's weird
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You aren't worried that her coke addiction could cause a death on your property which would screw up the value to anyone except ghost hunters?
 

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Ok so I slept in her bed last night. She was out meeting a friend after work so I came home and cooked/cleaned kitchen with a couple glasses of vino.

She comes back we chill, she has a blanket she doesn't want to share and tells me if I want it, I'll have to come over there, so I say "ok but I'll have to spoon you" - so we chill spooning/cuddling then I say I need to go to bed. She is either asleep or pretending, so I wake her up and carry her to bed. She says "you can come in my room man" so I put her on bed and lay on her, I get under the covers and we spoon/sleep.

Prob best feeling I've had in a while, I feel so happy over something so little it's weird
You sound like you're falling in love with her tbh. Sharing rom-com styled intimate moments
 

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You sure do attract all the wrong type of girls and then somehow get pulled into their Web haha

Be careful and set some boundaries buddy.
 

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Inspired from what I read in another thread earlier about women seeking advantage over men.

Case in point; my new female lodger has just asked me if she left £20 on the table for coke we were going to get coming back late Saturday night. Now I know for a fact she didn't give em any money, she transfers me from her bank whatever she owes me, including rent etc. I say there is no £20 and I've never seen any (truth is she owes me about £60 which given the difference in take-home pay I've waived mentally).

She then says lets get some coke, I'm like... babe it's Wednesday. I'm currently cooking seasoned chicken, potatos veg etc to feed us for lunch and dinner up til Saturday while she's out presumably drinking.

I went out Monday with a chick, Tuesday with a chick, Tuesday night she gets home and complains about the kitchen, I tell her I'm staying in until Friday so will do it then. Seriously I'm being nagged by a fvcking lodger, she's basically my employee, my minion, she has definitely used the fact I earn good money to her advantage.

I have started asking her for any money she owes to be transferred immediately. I'm giving her a place to stay where she has none for £300 ($400) less per month than market rate. I can feel she's taking my kindness for weakness only 4 weeks into living with me, so I've slowly regressed, become more stern, more concerned with other women (I let this current situation consume me slightly). She definitely has addiction problems.

Today I went with her to a mortgage broker on our lunch break, she has £360-£400k to drop on a flat looking for £100k mortgage from a lender - unheard of for a first-time buyer unless mega rich. I feel like taxing her when that money comes through.

Just needed to vent.
Anyone will take advantage if you let them treat you that way. You need to tell her that she has to start sleeping in your bed, i told you. You should be fvcking this girl and making her pay you.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok so I slept in her bed last night. She was out meeting a friend after work so I came home and cooked/cleaned kitchen with a couple glasses of vino.

She comes back we chill, she has a blanket she doesn't want to share and tells me if I want it, I'll have to come over there, so I say "ok but I'll have to spoon you" - so we chill spooning/cuddling then I say I need to go to bed. She is either asleep or pretending, so I wake her up and carry her to bed. She says "you can come in my room man" so I put her on bed and lay on her, I get under the covers and we spoon/sleep.

Prob best feeling I've had in a while, I feel so happy over something so little it's weird
Jesus dude. Are you even doing?
 

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Ok so I slept in her bed last night. She was out meeting a friend after work so I came home and cooked/cleaned kitchen with a couple glasses of vino.

She comes back we chill, she has a blanket she doesn't want to share and tells me if I want it, I'll have to come over there, so I say "ok but I'll have to spoon you" - so we chill spooning/cuddling then I say I need to go to bed. She is either asleep or pretending, so I wake her up and carry her to bed. She says "you can come in my room man" so I put her on bed and lay on her, I get under the covers and we spoon/sleep.

Prob best feeling I've had in a while, I feel so happy over something so little it's weird
Your her drug supplying gay roomie friend... smh
 

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You sound like you're falling in love with her tbh. Sharing rom-com styled intimate moments
It does feel that way...

he was in her bed and didnt fucc her but probably though of fuccing her and that was her plan
We were both very drunk, it's been a slow progression since she moved in 4 weeks ago, more touching, more comfortable with eachother etc. I don't think either of us wants to jeopardize a pretty cool home environment, home is meant to be a sanctuary/refuge from life so fvcking that up isn't a good move... I don't care if you think I should be charging her my D I have to live this life lol.

She gave me a semi while she had her feet on my lap so I let her feel it grow, I think that set off the evening, she wanted me to crack her back so I had my d!ck all rubbing on her, and she asked her a massage in her bed. She kept pushing herself onto me while we spooned, but she was quite aggressive (see drunk) with it.

If I smash... it's going to have to be a relationship, how can you casually see someone you live with, not tenable. My colleague said I should just wife her for the 6 month she's staying, she's hot, fun and I like having her around?
 

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so lets see you have a drug user in your house, who is bitching you, then when you can ahve some R&R with her you just spoon her and is getting "feelings", pray tell me did you cut you balls and deliver on a silver plate as a deal for her live with you? I serious doubt you are getting any from any girl even less dating around, if you was you wouldn't want anyone in your home to **** block you, and from what I see you are her maid too.

btw don't think everyone would like a friend like you, most people would think of you like a sucker not a friend, understand, as long you have to do everything to make people like you then its not worthy
 

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We’ve been friends for a while, I think the feelings are from constantly being around her, shopping, cooking, relaxing. I’m also a drug user too so that’s not an issue. She has done pretty much all the cooking and cleaning since arriving, yesterday was the first time I did both.

I am not really dating I’ve taken a break of about 1-2 months but I have been getting sex and this girl hasn’t c blocked me yet.

You’re judging what I’m like as a friend on one post, I’m far from a sucker, I do probably say yes too much though. I do nice things because I can, to existing friends.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've seen too many people get fvcked up with drugs.

Nothing good comes out from it.

And the only people who truly benefits from drugs are those people who are terminally ill or in dire physical pain.
 

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She comes back we chill, she has a blanket she doesn't want to share and tells me if I want it, I'll have to come over there, so I say "ok but I'll have to spoon you" - so we chill spooning/cuddling then I say I need to go to bed. She is either asleep or pretending, so I wake her up and carry her to bed. She says "you can come in my room man" so I put her on bed and lay on her, I get under the covers and we spoon/sleep.

Prob best feeling I've had in a while, I feel so happy over something so little it's weird
WTF did I just read??
 

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I get that Spaz. But if I take drugs recreationally and still go to work each day, smash work, don’t let it affect my life then it’s not a problem right?
 

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I get that Spaz. But if I take drugs recreationally and still go to work each day, smash work, don’t let it affect my life then it’s not a problem right?
If you like drugs so much why not just try smoking crack?
 

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If you like drugs so much why not just try smoking crack?
Because coke weed and mdma hit all the sweet spots I need to hit on those occasions
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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