"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women made you mature

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There must have been women in your life who changed you forever.


Some may have treated you badly, they were cruel, selfish, manipulative.
Others were kind, supportive, feminine in that unique way only women can be, then friends, confidantes.


In either case, how much do you credit women for the ways you've changed and matured?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Women never "make" you do anything. They simply make you realize your shortcomings so YOU can fix them
 

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For me it wasn't so much as they changed me as it was they opened my eyes to who most of them are. I was a little naive to the ways of women until I got cheated on by my exwife and got into the dating world.

Most all of the women in my life taught me something.

The biggest lessons were they've taught me that marriage is pointless, and its never smart to partner with them on big financial things. Women lack personal accountability and don't look far enough down the road. Their emotions run their lives. This is why they aren't good business partners. There has always been some man that bailed them out.

Am I jaded?.....I don't believe so. I just know a relationship with one isn't going to last more than 7yrs so I always keep that in mind. They have too many options and they always think the grass is greener somewhere else. Social Media has fueled this effect. Removing sanctions society had placed on them in the 50's and 60's didn't help either.

The chaos in American society these days is what you see when you let women run the show. A bunch of drama and emotions.
 
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how much do you credit women for the ways you've changed and matured?
My wife comes from a loving and far more healthier family than me. She is loving, sacrificial, and caring too. So, coming from a high-tension background myself, expanding on other elements of my personality changed me.

Raising kids and running a household together matured me further after that.
 

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They play a part in how life is in a constant flux, but I wouldn't make them the top priority as you have family, potential friends and other associates who will change.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is why they aren't good business partners
My Uncle ran his company for 40 years with my Aunt by his side.
I would say he was the one who ran public relations, always busy and forgetful.
She was the calculator who ran her accounting firm.

It was a 10 hour a day job and to think that they also raised a family of 3 children, and they all grew up quite healthy.

There are exceptions to the rules
 
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I think the best matches are with significant age gaps. Like 25 year old female and 40 year old male. The truth is males and females evolve at different speeds.

A 25 year old female will treat a 27 year old male like he doesn’t know sht because he really doesn’t compared to her. But a 25 year old female recognizes that a 40 year old male has traits of maturity, life experience and sophistication she respects.

Society has mismatched age groups. Just 30 years ago it was common for an 17 year old girl to marry a 35 year old male. Today the same age span was forced into something taboo.
 

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I believe a lot in asymmetries, but also that similar attracts similar.
It's true, a younger woman always has more maturity than a man, at least for the initial stages, it's in their nature.

I also notice this when I am approached often by much younger women. 5/10 years.
I think it's a common thing for everyone here.
 

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There must have been women in your life who changed you forever.


Some may have treated you badly, they were cruel, selfish, manipulative.
Others were kind, supportive, feminine in that unique way only women can be, then friends, confidantes.


In either case, how much do you credit women for the ways you've changed and matured?
Maturity is something that only I can do myself, and I'm as mature or as immature as I want to be. The important thing is that I'm effective and think about the long term.
 

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Maturity is something that only I can do myself
And yet, you can learn it from the people around you.


How mature are the people you surround yourself with? You'll start becoming like them.


It's no coincidence that cities and suburbs have different ways of doing things.
They call them traditions.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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And yet, you can learn it from the people around you.
I like to observe people in crowded places. You'll noticed patterns if you're thinking critically, with enough observation.

How mature are the people you surround yourself with? You'll start becoming like them.
You can surround yourself with the people of your choice. You can also allow your environment to influence you if you don't have a strong enough ego.

It's no coincidence that cities and suburbs have different ways of doing things.
They call them traditions.
I'm not exactly sure what that means. People do what they must, should, and can do, and if not done rationally, suffer consequences.
 
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