"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women in the workplace

JoesphBrown

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Quick question: I've got this girl who works at my restaurant (I'm in kitchen shes a server) and I can tell shes DTF (follows me around touches my hair, always touching me etc etc). I'd say shes like a 7 blah blah blah.

Anyways do any of you handsome gentlemen have an experience hooking up with girls in your workplace? Is it a good idea or a bad idea?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Young OG

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It's usually not the best idea. I used to work at a upscale department store when I was younger. I dated many women that worked there. Some were in my department and I would have to work side by side with them after we stopped dating.

But if she is a server, then I wouldn't worry about it. Serving is a revolving door. She prob won't be around long.
 

SeymourCake

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Do not go forth with it.
 

El Payaso

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She'll probably file a sexual harassment case with the manager when you break up with her because she's upset and the manager being a white knight will likely comply with her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Poonani Maker

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El Payaso said:
She'll probably file a sexual harassment case with the manager when you break up with her because she's upset and the manager being a white knight will likely comply with her.
Happened to ME in 2006. She LIED that I was "Stalking" her. My boss took me into a room and cited state laws. A couple of months later, I was fired for something VERY small (in a right-to-work state). BUT, this firing was the BEST thing that EVER happened to me. I bounced back EXTREMELY hard. I don't know if you'd call it a rubber band, probably much much Stronger material of elasticity. She's now in the dumps, I'm now in paradise.
 
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I've dated two coworkers. One for a month, another for 4 years and we both quit the job only weeks before we would have been fired.

I wouldn't do it unless you're okay with quitting the job on a whim, if so have at it.
 
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