sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Not sure why anyone is surprised by this... we ALL have that BPD girl we'd just love to spend the night with..... BUT we know it isn't for a long term deal....
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You are terribly naive if you believe that.Embers84 said:Women are loyal to their alpha boyfriends and husbands. Betas like the author who don't have the credentials to keep a woman long term needs to spin plates for a lifetime. Loyalty is a major characteristic of the alpha male.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
As harsh as he puts it down he covered core alpha/beta pretty well.PlayHer Man said:All I've ever advised is for a man to do what's best for him. Any man who wants to play cannon fodder or lay on his own sword for the "good of society" is welcomed to do that.![]()
Also.. nothing I've ever said or suggested keeps you from having kids. But if the ONLY way for you to have kids is to be enslaved by a woman.. are you willing to play that cannon fodder role?
I know beta is a bad word.. but its really the betas who keep the world going. They are also taken for granted and treated like trash because they are so willing to play cannon fodder. :crackup:
No alpha is going to waste his time worrying about what's good for women and kids unless its also good for him. Real talk. :yes:
You sound like the type who would throw away a high quality sandwich because you don't like the bag it came in. :crackup:GetFit66 said:I don't mind what he is saying, I don't care if your preaching about killing people. No need to sound like a 2 year old girl crying about it all the time though.
yeah man we all know beta king is play her man.Atom Smasher said:PHM and Burroughs are not the same person.
Are you sure we lost PHM? Perhaps he is nearer to us than we think...![]()
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You mean playswithhimselfman the mental masturdebator A.K.A BurrHOE the Buffoon Queen.backbeat said:yeah man we all know beta king is play her man.
They way you follow me around this site I would say the only one "playing with himself" is you. Chill out on the stage 5 clinger behavior homo. :crackup:TarantulaHawk said:You mean playswithhimselfman the mental masturdebator A.K.A BurrHOE the Buffoon Queen.