"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women fall in love with someone like their dad

Naughty Ninja

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Anyone believe in the saying "Women fall in love with someone like their dad?"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Its not because they have 'daddy issues'

Its because women associate power and dominance with their dads, a leader figure. Creates the same feelings and all that.
 

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It re-creates the feelings and she looks up to him like she did her dad.

Women want to be led, its an innocent desire.

Dont say it like it's a bad thing, i think it's cute.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ease said:
It re-creates the feelings and she looks up to him like she did her dad.

Women want to be led, its an innocent desire.

Dont say it like it's a bad thing, i think it's cute.
It can be a bad thing. Like for example women that cry about getting burned by men and talk all the time about wanting a good man, yet a month later will go and date another a**hole who is just like every other guy they dated.

There's a huge section of women that just need drama in their lives it seems. Frankly I don't think there are a lot of normal women around anymore. They either look for a man that is like their dad, or they date a**holes. And you know what the really bad thing is? the next generation of females coming up are going to be even worse!

I just don't look to spend much time with a woman anymore (unless i'm totally attracted to her). I go out with her enough to get action and i'm off to the next one. These women are toxic.
 

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f283000 said:
It can be a bad thing. Like for example women that cry about getting burned by men and talk all the time about wanting a good man, yet a month later will go and date another a**hole who is just like every other guy they dated.

I just don't look to spend much time with a woman anymore (unless i'm totally attracted to her). I go out with her enough to get action and i'm off to the next one. These women are toxic.
YEP!

Some women are so fukwits that they can´t control themselves and expect someone who will (control them, a kind of father). That´s why they sh!t test the hell out of you. In the end you feel drained because you have to take care of two people (you and her). Picture a "potent" car with horrible break system, imagine the struggle to drive such car, it will demand a lot of maneuvering from the driver. The likelihood of crashing it is pretty high.

That´s the prob with girls with daddy issues. It´s like, another analogy, having a car that needs tons of gasoline just to cross the street (no wonder they´re called High Maintenance girls).
 

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Sometimes that's true. Sometimes not. Depends on her dad. If he was a strong good upstanding guy. Probably. If he touched her naughty places at night, probably not so much. If he beat the **** out her mom, well...who knows? What if he was never there? Maybe she likes distant dudes or becomes clingy. It's a minefield and probably should not be totally count on for good results.
 

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Studies have shown that people (men and women) will tolerate shortcomings in their partners that are the same as their parents. For example, chicks who had bald fathers will accept a bald guy easier, and guys with alcoholic mothers will tolerate an alcoholic girlfreind a lot more, etc. For the most part anyway. Obviously some people will not tolerate an alcoholic partner because they have seen the damage done in their own families by their parents, but for the most part, people are more accepting of the shortcomings of their parents in their respective partners.

Whether or not this has anything to do with 'love' is a different situation.
 
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