Wow,
@sazc seems to have picked up quite well on women's game dynamics from an explanatory point of view
I think her behaviour is weird and the dancing thing is an excuse for whatever is really happening. I would cautiously proceed, but would make my time busy with other things/women and let her wonder. Silence and coldness from your part now will make her reveal what is really the problem sooner rather than later.
Though, I think you are a bit emotional right now judging from the way you write, I might be wrong.
Haha, I learned from the best!
This whole silence and distance thing still baffles me. She was playing the game to an extent with lefty, and look where it got her....it moved his emotional state into a frame of distrust. If she was ONLY playing the (psuedo) S&D game (not trying to cultivate anyone else) then the game backfired on her BIG time. Im sure that a dude doing silence and distance to a female has the potential to backfire on the same manner.
I don't get it, why not communicate? But that's just me.
On the topic of Lefty not being romantic enough and slow dancing with her, I assume he communicated to her fairly early on that he was not the romantic/romantic gesture type of guy. I can only imagine she was so caught up in the honeymoon, that she chose to not really comprehend or understand the impact of that on their relationship. Instead she chose subconsciously to think she could change that about him, and now she's in a state of malcontent because she's not getting some of her needs met.
Lefty did the right thing by clearly stating to her I'm not that guy, if you need that guy you need to move on. Makes me wonder why people don't really listen in the beginning. Instead spending months in a relationship with the wrong person and being, ultimately, unhappy.
I do agree, being upset over not slow dancing, and choosing to be distant in the hopes that your partner will come to realize you are upset, and ask why (disfunctional btw) is most likely symptomatic of a bucket full of resentments. Eventually the bucket will spill, and the mess will be unavoidable.
But I also think Lefty has known for some time that this relationship is more temporary than permanent