Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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jaymbrs

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Waitresses were the most fun for me. I spent about 5 years in the service industry so bedded quite a few of them. They were all skanks. My last 2 gfs work in the financial industry and both were the adventurous type.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i just found out my date tomorrow is a nurse.

Maybe i should cancel lollll
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nurses are cool, just a tad adventurous, with clubbing etc.
i dont think she the clubing kind , but the sexual innuendo type.

It will be fun, ill worry about her proffesion after round 3 lolll
 

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i dont think she the clubing kind , but the sexual innuendo type.

It will be fun, ill worry about her proffesion after round 3 lolll
Just bang, show no mercy, just don't project an overly eager stance early on.

Play it cool, let her seduce you 1st and then seduce her back like a pro.
 

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Just bang, show no mercy, just don't project an overly eager stance early on.

Play it cool, let her seduce you 1st and then seduce her back like a pro.
Yep thats my plan.
Afternoon date however so probably not same day bang
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Coffee in the afternoon we are both not working tomorrow afternoon.
You think night venu is better?
Change it to night or better yet an evening date since I assume this is the 1st date?

I'd suggest doing some fun activities 1st and after that there's something to talk/relate, take it from there.
 

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I agree it would be best but im very limited where i live, all coffee shop are close after 5, and on week day no decent bar is open after 9pm

Any opinion on driving to a near by city thats about 30-40min away, not sure if driving there together in same car is a good idea.
 

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My most positive experiences have been with nurses and IT. My worst experiences have been with daycare workers and low level gigs like retail.
 

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Any opinion on driving to a near by city thats about 30-40min away, not sure if driving there together in same car is a good idea.
This works in ur favor.

Which girl doesn't want to get out of her small town to unwind?

Even the most rigid of girls wants adventure.

Take her there in the evening and spend the night.

Drive in the same car. Lead the way.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This works in ur favor.

Which girl doesn't want to get out of her small town to unwind?

Even the most rigid of girls wants adventure.

Take her there in the evening and spend the night.

Drive in the same car. Lead the way.
Date set for tomorrow at a decent pub 40min drive from home.
She was very enthusiastic, im starting to think she just want me for my body will see tomorrow.
 

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How was the sex with IT?
One of them I would call “pretty good” sex wise and one “ok”. I think what I like most of all about them and what stood out as positive after the fact is that the two IT chicks I dated never tried to drag me into their financial affairs.
 

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Date set for tomorrow at a decent pub 40min drive from home.
She was very enthusiastic, im starting to think she just want me for my body will see tomorrow.
Same car.

Don't drive even if only tipsy.

Stay the night, don't worry about her, she already expects it.
 

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Same car.

Don't drive even if only tipsy.

Stay the night, don't worry about her, she already expects it.
One car obviously only fun stuff can come out of that.


Not sure about spending the night there, will see how things goes.

Thanks for advice, i seriously think she would have been disappointed if coffee date.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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