"I noticed this recently as I've reengaged with a woman. Before I would react to her 'bids' of emotion readily, but now I don't nearly as much. I respond instead. And through this, I'm able to see her true feelings and disposition towards herself and me a bit easier."
Well, she means a lot to me. So naturally, when that's the case one will be there to
react to her energy or thoughts when she says or does some things. Ranging from petty, insecure, everyday things, or major.
We had time away from one another, and during that, I learned from not seeing her as much for the past month and a half that I'm in control of me since she wasn't around - became more in touch with myself.
When we reengaged I realized her feelings were hers and mine are separate, respectively of each other and external circumstances.
Although prior to this short departure I couldn't untangle completely from her and my feelings, as when you are close with another, you weirdly can become synced-up to varying degrees. positively and negatively charged. So when she expressed herself emotionally it was easy to get caught up in losing my frame or experience and direction in a small seemingly inconsequential way.
Women's moods range from deeply positive to deeply chaotic, and sometimes we can get swept up in the 'excitement' as it offers something novel or a bout of excitement. Especially during low periods of our human existence. But in getting swept up too much, we can become unheeled to our true nature. And lose that very alluring nature that drew them to us in the first place. The dance between a woman and a man is truly an art. But both people in that dynamic, need something compelling of their own. Their own North Star so they don't stray too far.
A rock craves weather because it's the opposite. And the weather craves a rock because it's the opposite. This is polarity. Notice how when you start acting like the ever-changing weather with a woman her lady boner goes away or she makes a weird face? Or notice when a woman is stoic you get tired, kind of turned off, and just want to walk away and go do something else?
The whole point is just to respond tactfully. Be there like a grandpa would be for the kid. Just there.
Women in some ways act like snot-nosed brats a lot of the time because they are so emotional, trying to get a grip on fleeting feelings or whatever else. Reading too much into it from a man's standpoint never does anything good, because it's honestly and shockingly rarely anything. They will come back and soon be able to express themselves. If you try at the moment to get to the root issue or figure it all out, you will just come off as needy, lacking independence, and man-solving her issue; all of which she dislikes and will probably annoy you too. As it's ultimately entering her frame, rather than the other way around. If she's experiencing issues, she will come to your frame, if she trusts you as a leader. And she hopes she can because this is her inner desire on a sexual level.
You can never and will never prevent her emotions from bubbling over the side of a cup. But you can re-frame what that mess means to you, and in doing-so resculpt who you are in relation to the mess.