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Woman at Swimming Pool

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There’s a woman at my local swimming pool that I’ve started some light conversations when in the pool in the last weeks.
I guess she’s early forties and she said she has a son. There’s no wedding ring, but that could be not wearing it for swimming.
Last week and this week she’s initiating light conversations when taking a short breather in the pool.
I’m swimming because it’s something I enjoy. I’m not there to try and pickup women, but open to opportunities if they present themselves.

I’m interested, but uncertain how to proceed.
Next Saturday is my last swimming session I’ll see her before I go away on holiday. It’ll be 3 weeks before I’ll see her in the pool again.

Do I mention to her that I’m going away or just disappear for a few weeks?
 

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There’s a woman at my local swimming pool that I’ve started some light conversations when in the pool in the last weeks.
I guess she’s early forties and she said she has a son. There’s no wedding ring, but that could be not wearing it for swimming.
Last week and this week she’s initiating light conversations when taking a short breather in the pool.
I’m swimming because it’s something I enjoy. I’m not there to try and pickup women, but open to opportunities if they present themselves.

I’m interested, but uncertain how to proceed.
Next Saturday is my last swimming session I’ll see her before I go away on holiday. It’ll be 3 weeks before I’ll see her in the pool again.

Do I mention to her that I’m going away or just disappear for a few weeks?
“Hey by any chance want do you want to meet up for a coffee outside of this building?

Take life by the horns.
 

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There’s a woman at my local swimming pool that I’ve started some light conversations when in the pool in the last weeks.
I guess she’s early forties and she said she has a son. There’s no wedding ring, but that could be not wearing it for swimming.
Last week and this week she’s initiating light conversations when taking a short breather in the pool.
I’m swimming because it’s something I enjoy. I’m not there to try and pickup women, but open to opportunities if they present themselves.

I’m interested, but uncertain how to proceed.
Next Saturday is my last swimming session I’ll see her before I go away on holiday. It’ll be 3 weeks before I’ll see her in the pool again.

Do I mention to her that I’m going away or just disappear for a few weeks?
just ask if she wants to grab a drink or something
 

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there's not much to analyze, ask her to grab a c0cktail or wine or smthn. but it would be effective to have a good date, then get her thinking about you for 3 weeks then smash when you get back.

“Hey by any chance want do you want to meet up for a coffee outside of this building?

Take life by the horns.
coffee? no. has any man ever banged a women after a coffee date?
 

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there's not much to analyze, ask her to grab a c0cktail or wine or smthn. but it would be effective to have a good date, then get her thinking about you for 3 weeks then smash when you get back.


coffee? no. has any man ever banged a women after a coffee date?
yea you are right.
 

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OP one option is to mention your travel holiday as a DHV and build up intrigue about your trip. Then she can ask you about it when you get back and see her in the pool, and ask her out then once you've built up more interest and rapport. It might be optimal logistically to broach meeting up when you get back from vacation.

You could ask her out now and then mention the trip when discussing scheduling, but the logistics aren't good for building up buying temp and striking while the iron's hot.
 

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Saw her today after the Christmas break. Asked her how her Christmas was and she mentioned something about her husband.
After that she did her usual thing of waiting for me to catch up before starting the next length with a beaming smile so that we end up doing the same number of lengths.
Waited for me at the end of the session so she could say bye.

Maybe she’s just flirting, however for me as she’s married flirting is as far as it will go.
 

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Saw her today after the Christmas break. Asked her how her Christmas was and she mentioned something about her husband.
After that she did her usual thing of waiting for me to catch up before starting the next length with a beaming smile so that we end up doing the same number of lengths.
Waited for me at the end of the session so she could say bye.

Maybe she’s just flirting, however for me as she’s married flirting is as far as it will go.
Attention wh0re
 

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