Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I think it depends how close you are with your friend man...Or the situation in general..Last year me I was talking to this girl and my friend told me if it was alright for him to go after that as well, I gave him the green light cause i thought she wasnt interested in him..Guess what, he pulled it off..haha....I wasnt mad cause i just wanted to mess around with her nothing serious..WHat intentions does your friend have with her? serious? or just wants to F**** her as well..lol...so it all dependsMiguel said:All right, I need some advice. I sort of ruthlessly semi-picked up my friends prospect, not the greatest thing in the world to do, but still… if he couldn’t pull the baggage it’s not my fault! Anyways, the thing is, I don’t thinks she’s really long term into me, but still W/e, I don’t mind… but if she’s been chatting with him… problems could emerge… advice needed.
what a good friend you are.... remember not to introduce ya ass to any of ma prospects.. are you that desperate.. find another chick and leave your slow friend.Miguel said:I sort of ruthlessly semi-picked up my friends prospect, not the greatest thing in the world to do, I don’t thinks she’s really long term into me. advice needed.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.