Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think it depends how close you are with your friend man...Or the situation in general..Last year me I was talking to this girl and my friend told me if it was alright for him to go after that as well, I gave him the green light cause i thought she wasnt interested in him..Guess what, he pulled it off..haha....I wasnt mad cause i just wanted to mess around with her nothing serious..WHat intentions does your friend have with her? serious? or just wants to F**** her as well..lol...so it all dependsMiguel said:All right, I need some advice. I sort of ruthlessly semi-picked up my friends prospect, not the greatest thing in the world to do, but still… if he couldn’t pull the baggage it’s not my fault! Anyways, the thing is, I don’t thinks she’s really long term into me, but still W/e, I don’t mind… but if she’s been chatting with him… problems could emerge… advice needed.
what a good friend you are.... remember not to introduce ya ass to any of ma prospects.. are you that desperate.. find another chick and leave your slow friend.Miguel said:I sort of ruthlessly semi-picked up my friends prospect, not the greatest thing in the world to do, I don’t thinks she’s really long term into me. advice needed.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.