You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think it depends how close you are with your friend man...Or the situation in general..Last year me I was talking to this girl and my friend told me if it was alright for him to go after that as well, I gave him the green light cause i thought she wasnt interested in him..Guess what, he pulled it off..haha....I wasnt mad cause i just wanted to mess around with her nothing serious..WHat intentions does your friend have with her? serious? or just wants to F**** her as well..lol...so it all dependsMiguel said:All right, I need some advice. I sort of ruthlessly semi-picked up my friends prospect, not the greatest thing in the world to do, but still… if he couldn’t pull the baggage it’s not my fault! Anyways, the thing is, I don’t thinks she’s really long term into me, but still W/e, I don’t mind… but if she’s been chatting with him… problems could emerge… advice needed.
what a good friend you are.... remember not to introduce ya ass to any of ma prospects.. are you that desperate.. find another chick and leave your slow friend.Miguel said:I sort of ruthlessly semi-picked up my friends prospect, not the greatest thing in the world to do, I don’t thinks she’s really long term into me. advice needed.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.