"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Winks?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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no no no

winking is creepy.

the only way you can wink is in a very sly, totally joking manner with a woman that you already know. Anything else is gonna weird someone out.
 

Kineti[C]harm

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If you already got some previous raport with the girl or simular you can do a fast wink while smiling as a part joke part flirting kind of way.
 

Reto

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AFC if a guy does it!!

I've had a couple of girls in the past wink at me and it completely confused me. Like what the he!! does that suppose to mean? That they want my manhood?

My grand mother use to wink at me when I was a little kid... I have no idea what it means...
 

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If you have repoire with a girl it can deepen it i think...

Example:

I was out with this girl I've been seeing for a month or so, went up to the bar to grab a round, it was crowded and took a while... Looked back at her after 10 minutes and gave her a little wink before I got myself to the front...You could see her melt a little just because its a connection you can have from across the room...

I agree it can be VERY creepy without previous repoire, so take my advice *** grano salis.....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I dunno, I've never winked. It's kind of an obsolete social gesture.

If you express your sexuality through your tone of voice, action, and kino, a wink is hardly necessary.

;) (irony intended)
 

Reto

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Originally posted by DankNuggs
If you have repoire with a girl it can deepen it i think...

Example:

I was out with this girl I've been seeing for a month or so, went up to the bar to grab a round, it was crowded and took a while... Looked back at her after 10 minutes and gave her a little wink before I got myself to the front...You could see her melt a little just because its a connection you can have from across the room...
I can see that. It's kind of your own langueage only the two of you know...
 
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