Okey guys, so here it goes.
I am working at this restaurant and I have gotten smitten with one of the waitresses. We have often gone out together and there has always been a flirtatious tone between us. In a couple of weeks time she will be leaving for Asia and the flirting has escalated. A few weeks ago she invited me too a party at her place, but she lives a long way away so I didn't bother going. then the next week all of the restaurants at the promenade held a joint party and I went hard in for the kill. My game was on and I thought it was a done deal, however, no matter how slick I was I never managed to seal the deal with a proper kiss - she always backed out. And then it got even worse as I saw her making out with another guy. I took it on the chin and just accepted that this is part of the dance and maybe that I got too self-assured, and now she is putting me in my place so to speak.
A few days later we went out on a date and it was awesome. I would make sexual jokes and inuendoes and she would laugh but didn't reciprocate. I used kino actively and she seemed to appreciate it, but again wouldn't return the favor. This put me out a bit, so when the time came for us to part I didn't go in for the kiss. We had a lingering hug and she invited me to her place this weekend. A few days ago she rescheduled our date for next week, but now she has changed the whole nature of the date into a get together with other people also joining!
She has told me on an earlier occasion that she likes to work for it. After the party where she made-out with this other guy, I decided therefore to pick up again my flirting with another waitress and by this playing her up against "my woman". I also went out on a date with a friend of another waitress because I knew "my woman" would hear about this. I have however, while doing these things, always been careful to throw her enough rope for her not to give up or lose interest. By judging her body language she seems uncomfortable when I flirt with other women and she seems genuinely infatuated with me, but still she wont gear things up.
As an endnote I should add that she is quite a libertarian, and I know for a fact that she has a quite relaxed view on sex.
Okay, so now you have the background. The frustrating thing is that I don't seem to be getting anywhere. So please, all of you Djs out there and help this foot sore old schmuck tired of dancing.
I am working at this restaurant and I have gotten smitten with one of the waitresses. We have often gone out together and there has always been a flirtatious tone between us. In a couple of weeks time she will be leaving for Asia and the flirting has escalated. A few weeks ago she invited me too a party at her place, but she lives a long way away so I didn't bother going. then the next week all of the restaurants at the promenade held a joint party and I went hard in for the kill. My game was on and I thought it was a done deal, however, no matter how slick I was I never managed to seal the deal with a proper kiss - she always backed out. And then it got even worse as I saw her making out with another guy. I took it on the chin and just accepted that this is part of the dance and maybe that I got too self-assured, and now she is putting me in my place so to speak.
A few days later we went out on a date and it was awesome. I would make sexual jokes and inuendoes and she would laugh but didn't reciprocate. I used kino actively and she seemed to appreciate it, but again wouldn't return the favor. This put me out a bit, so when the time came for us to part I didn't go in for the kiss. We had a lingering hug and she invited me to her place this weekend. A few days ago she rescheduled our date for next week, but now she has changed the whole nature of the date into a get together with other people also joining!
She has told me on an earlier occasion that she likes to work for it. After the party where she made-out with this other guy, I decided therefore to pick up again my flirting with another waitress and by this playing her up against "my woman". I also went out on a date with a friend of another waitress because I knew "my woman" would hear about this. I have however, while doing these things, always been careful to throw her enough rope for her not to give up or lose interest. By judging her body language she seems uncomfortable when I flirt with other women and she seems genuinely infatuated with me, but still she wont gear things up.
As an endnote I should add that she is quite a libertarian, and I know for a fact that she has a quite relaxed view on sex.
Okay, so now you have the background. The frustrating thing is that I don't seem to be getting anywhere. So please, all of you Djs out there and help this foot sore old schmuck tired of dancing.
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