“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Coppaia

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Okey guys, so here it goes.

I am working at this restaurant and I have gotten smitten with one of the waitresses. We have often gone out together and there has always been a flirtatious tone between us. In a couple of weeks time she will be leaving for Asia and the flirting has escalated. A few weeks ago she invited me too a party at her place, but she lives a long way away so I didn't bother going. then the next week all of the restaurants at the promenade held a joint party and I went hard in for the kill. My game was on and I thought it was a done deal, however, no matter how slick I was I never managed to seal the deal with a proper kiss - she always backed out. And then it got even worse as I saw her making out with another guy. I took it on the chin and just accepted that this is part of the dance and maybe that I got too self-assured, and now she is putting me in my place so to speak.

A few days later we went out on a date and it was awesome. I would make sexual jokes and inuendoes and she would laugh but didn't reciprocate. I used kino actively and she seemed to appreciate it, but again wouldn't return the favor. This put me out a bit, so when the time came for us to part I didn't go in for the kiss. We had a lingering hug and she invited me to her place this weekend. A few days ago she rescheduled our date for next week, but now she has changed the whole nature of the date into a get together with other people also joining!

She has told me on an earlier occasion that she likes to work for it. After the party where she made-out with this other guy, I decided therefore to pick up again my flirting with another waitress and by this playing her up against "my woman". I also went out on a date with a friend of another waitress because I knew "my woman" would hear about this. I have however, while doing these things, always been careful to throw her enough rope for her not to give up or lose interest. By judging her body language she seems uncomfortable when I flirt with other women and she seems genuinely infatuated with me, but still she wont gear things up.

As an endnote I should add that she is quite a libertarian, and I know for a fact that she has a quite relaxed view on sex.

Okay, so now you have the background. The frustrating thing is that I don't seem to be getting anywhere. So please, all of you Djs out there and help this foot sore old schmuck tired of dancing.
 
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Libertarian? I think you mean libertine. Whatever. How do you know 'as a fact'? What someone else said?

If you're this far down the road, no further along than you are and after a lot of effort and she's leaving, your time is short. Enjoy the game. Just don't bet large.
 

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Seems like she has low interest. Move along.
 

thatfeel

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Sounds like a lot of effort spent on one girl who isn't giving you what you want. You tried already to get it, you've put in far more time than she deserves for not putting out or letting you escalate, I would agree she has low IL but is feeling you out as a orbiter.
 
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No. Based on the thread title you already view her as the prize meaning you've already lost.

You sound like you'd make a nice friend tho...
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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