That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
4 inches is definitely too big, as I measure 2.8 inches from hip bone to bottom of rib cage and I read in a 70sbig article that if the belt goes onto the bottom of the ribcage, then you could be in for an injury.Kerpal said:No, it won't work. Regular belts are too thin and designed to go lower on your torso. Plus you probably wouldn't be able to get it tight enough.
Are you sure a 4" won't fit? I got this belt: http://www.inzernet.com/detail_econobelt.asp?PRODUCT_ID=ECON_POWER_BELT It works great and it was only $40 + shipping.
None taken. You say the a clothing belt would not work? What does this mean? you mean that it will provide no support whatsoever? Because I would have thought that different size belts provide different degrees of support, not just "it works" or "it doesn't work". I'm not trying to defend a clothing belt, I just want clarification as to if it will provide any support whatsoever. Yes I'm not strong enough to NEED a belt, but i've read articles that belts do nothing but good, both for getting stronger and staying injury free.Colossus said:4" is not too big, you just cant wear it too high. Guys are squatting 800-1000 lbs with 4", 13mm belts and doing just fine. I use the same for all my big pulls and squats.
Remember the purpose of a belt is to give you something to 'push' against instead of the weaker muscles of your abdominal wall. It increases intra-abdominal pressure and prevents herniations and strains.
A clothing belt will not work. Ever. If you are asking that you probably arent even strong enough to need a belt. No offense.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.