You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
4 inches is definitely too big, as I measure 2.8 inches from hip bone to bottom of rib cage and I read in a 70sbig article that if the belt goes onto the bottom of the ribcage, then you could be in for an injury.Kerpal said:No, it won't work. Regular belts are too thin and designed to go lower on your torso. Plus you probably wouldn't be able to get it tight enough.
Are you sure a 4" won't fit? I got this belt: http://www.inzernet.com/detail_econobelt.asp?PRODUCT_ID=ECON_POWER_BELT It works great and it was only $40 + shipping.
None taken. You say the a clothing belt would not work? What does this mean? you mean that it will provide no support whatsoever? Because I would have thought that different size belts provide different degrees of support, not just "it works" or "it doesn't work". I'm not trying to defend a clothing belt, I just want clarification as to if it will provide any support whatsoever. Yes I'm not strong enough to NEED a belt, but i've read articles that belts do nothing but good, both for getting stronger and staying injury free.Colossus said:4" is not too big, you just cant wear it too high. Guys are squatting 800-1000 lbs with 4", 13mm belts and doing just fine. I use the same for all my big pulls and squats.
Remember the purpose of a belt is to give you something to 'push' against instead of the weaker muscles of your abdominal wall. It increases intra-abdominal pressure and prevents herniations and strains.
A clothing belt will not work. Ever. If you are asking that you probably arent even strong enough to need a belt. No offense.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.