Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Why?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
KontrollerX
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Tick's take on things is spot on as well.
personally, i have figured that most broads want a piece of my meat muscle. i don't give it a second thought.
The ****? Why is someone being interested in a 16 year old such a big deal to you? Who the **** are you anyway? Atleast I'm learning this at a young age, what were you doing when you were 16? Playing video games all day?aldaris said:what kind of girl is interested in a 16 year old boy? most 16 year old girls like guys twice their age. is this a 10 year old that has a crush on you? that is really cute.
personally, i have figured that most broads want a piece of my meat muscle. i don't give it a second thought.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MooseGod
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Are you by any chance a frat boy? Just seemed like the type...aldaris said:what kind of girl is interested in a 16 year old boy? most 16 year old girls like guys twice their age. is this a 10 year old that has a crush on you? that is really cute.
personally, i have figured that most broads want a piece of my meat muscle. i don't give it a second thought.
Don't let him have control of your emotions. He's only going to be laughing about it. Anyway, good luck with this chick.HandyAndy said:The ****? Why is someone being interested in a 16 year old such a big deal to you? Who the **** are you anyway? Atleast I'm learning this at a young age, what were you doing when you were 16? Playing video games all day?
Supremo
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The more chicks you get with, the more other girls will feel attracted to you (weird, how that works), and the less you'll feel this, which in turn, makes chicks like you more cause you don't come off as needy.
Quite the sentence above. But yeah you get the idea.
Yup, build a stable. Then once your stable is full, the rejection from chicks won't be so bad because you've got some waiting in the wings. It kills the desperation.Supremo said:Yeah Andy I know what you're sayin. This happened A LOT before I found the boards. It's basically just knowing that a girl "likes" you, so you feel flattered, and especially if you aren't really getting any action, you'll want to pursue it.
The more chicks you get with, the more other girls will feel attracted to you (weird, how that works), and the less you'll feel this, which in turn, makes chicks like you more cause you don't come off as needy.
Quite the sentence above. But yeah you get the idea.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
please! video game? i was a freaking video game when i was 16.HandyAndy said:The ****? Why is someone being interested in a 16 year old such a big deal to you? Who the **** are you anyway? Atleast I'm learning this at a young age, what were you doing when you were 16? Playing video games all day?
at 16 i was starting on varsity! 3rd game of the season i scored two touchdowns in one quarter! after that it was easy to pick-up chicks. daddies were giving me their daughters. mothers were checking me out. it was amazing. i was able to skip out of class when i wanted to as well. i would go down to the coach's office and shoot the bull like real men do. i ended up being first team all-newcomer for the entire city (2nd team all-newcomer for the state).
didn't hurt that i also had to shave twice a day and had enough hair on my chest to hide a family of four.
Well thats exactly it...the ones that you say dont show their interest are the ones that really want it, and theyre not making my life any easier by not giving me any signals to pick up ontick37 said:Maybe it's because you didn't know she was even an option. The girls who really want you usually don't show it because they don't want to look like a fool to you. The ones who come after you are usually the ones you should watch out for.
And aldaris, i dont give a crap about your football career, so gtfo of my thread
ready123
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fvckin hilarious
SickAgain
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It;s called reciprocity. We tend to like those who like us. Despite all this Jedi Ninja Super PUA talk where nerds fantasize about acting aloof and suddenly all the women are wanting them, a great deal of empirical evidence says that in general people like those who like them also.HandyAndy said:Why is it that when a girl shows interest you suddenly start to like her, when you never did before?
It;s just like anything else, in general people tend to mate with those who are similar to them, but one can always point out the minority of examples that would suggest the opposite. Social science is about averages.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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say hello smile and flirt... Make eye contact... touch their hands... then back off.... then you should be inHandyAndy said:OK thanks for the advice but how can I go about talking to the girls that are showing interest, i always get nervous, i care about what they think of me and all
Easier said than done, shes been showing interest for so long and ive held back for so long that im starting to care what she thinks about me, we constantly lock eyes in class but nothing more, becuase im just too nervouDonGorgon said:say hello smile and flirt... Make eye contact... touch their hands... then back off.... then you should be in
If you don't make a move, she'll think you're a wimp. Does that help? She'll just move on to the next decent guy that gives her attention because she's single and she can.HandyAndy said:Easier said than done, shes been showing interest for so long and ive held back for so long that im starting to care what she thinks about me, we constantly lock eyes in class but nothing more, becuase im just too nervou
Well during class, im always talking to other girls and having a good time with them, laughing and all...does she get jealous? If so, does her being jealous change the game or not?tick37 said:If you don't make a move, she'll think you're a wimp. Does that help? She'll just move on to the next decent guy that gives her attention because she's single and she can.
ARrocket
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Yeah, it makes her jealous, but still, if you don't act, she'll just assume you don't like her.HandyAndy said:Well during class, im always talking to other girls and having a good time with them, laughing and all...does she get jealous? If so, does her being jealous change the game or not?
Happened to me TOO many times.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.