"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Like how do you mean?
Sometimes you are aloof sometimes you are warm, sometimes you are cool, sometimes you are super nice, other times you are indifferent. Sometimes you are immediately responsive, sometimes you are more distant.

But it can’t be a contrived thing it’s got to be because you actually have other stuff going on.

I’m naturally rather aloof. Works brilliantly but it’s how I am not how I’m acting.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just be careful on intermittent reinforcement, as it’s ultimately a psychological device and easily manipulated in the wrong direction
 

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Sometimes you are aloof sometimes you are warm, sometimes you are cool, sometimes you are super nice, other times you are indifferent. Sometimes you are immediately responsive, sometimes you are more distant.

But it can’t be a contrived thing it’s got to be because you actually have other stuff going on.

I’m naturally rather aloof. Works brilliantly but it’s how I am not how I’m acting.
Good advice here! Thanks.
 

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Sometimes you are aloof sometimes you are warm, sometimes you are cool, sometimes you are super nice, other times you are indifferent. Sometimes you are immediately responsive, sometimes you are more distant.

But it can’t be a contrived thing it’s got to be because you actually have other stuff going on.

I’m naturally rather aloof. Works brilliantly but it’s how I am not how I’m acting.
I truly believe that the younger Men on this..... (You Don't Know What You Don't Know) should pay more attention to this kind of wisdom. Experience means a lot!!!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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