"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Why you never can tell her.....

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Sometimes you are aloof sometimes you are warm, sometimes you are cool, sometimes you are super nice, other times you are indifferent. Sometimes you are immediately responsive, sometimes you are more distant.

But it can’t be a contrived thing it’s got to be because you actually have other stuff going on.

I’m naturally rather aloof. Works brilliantly but it’s how I am not how I’m acting.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just be careful on intermittent reinforcement, as it’s ultimately a psychological device and easily manipulated in the wrong direction
 

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Sometimes you are aloof sometimes you are warm, sometimes you are cool, sometimes you are super nice, other times you are indifferent. Sometimes you are immediately responsive, sometimes you are more distant.

But it can’t be a contrived thing it’s got to be because you actually have other stuff going on.

I’m naturally rather aloof. Works brilliantly but it’s how I am not how I’m acting.
Good advice here! Thanks.
 

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Sometimes you are aloof sometimes you are warm, sometimes you are cool, sometimes you are super nice, other times you are indifferent. Sometimes you are immediately responsive, sometimes you are more distant.

But it can’t be a contrived thing it’s got to be because you actually have other stuff going on.

I’m naturally rather aloof. Works brilliantly but it’s how I am not how I’m acting.
I truly believe that the younger Men on this..... (You Don't Know What You Don't Know) should pay more attention to this kind of wisdom. Experience means a lot!!!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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