You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks for asking about my opinion through DM on this question. I think you are a new member/new profile here so first off welcome to sosuave, its valuable reading through threads here.I am just thinking that if you have a sexy and attractive vibe , while she is super talkative with you , she would be more than happy to meet
Simple. She isn't interested. Or at least has someone else she is more interested in and you are being kept as the backup or backup to the backup.I am just thinking that if you have a sexy and attractive vibe , while she is super talkative with you , she would be more than happy to meet
actually I think that it might be the same reason on why girls will not meet with you after you escalate a lot but for some reason sex will not happen .Simple. She isn't interested. Or at least has someone else she is more interested in and you are being kept as the backup or backup to the backup.
OP, unfortunately for you, each woman dictates what is attractive to her, not what you believe is or should be.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That some reason is usually that they are not that interested.actually I think that it might be the same reason on why girls will not meet with you after you escalate a lot but for some reason sex will not happen .
Like for example when you kiss her and then you tell her to come to your apartment
I guess that this happens because she knows what will happen and her hamster wheel starts spinning till everything crashes and burns
Why would you allow a woman to get to you in that way? Who cares if she wants to meet. Why would you feel the need to send her a pic of that?She probably likes the attention she gets by giving you false hope even tho she isn't interested. It's just an ego thing. If she texts me and doesn't want to meet I would send her a photo of other girl svcking me off.
Nope it's just letting her know she can't fvck around with you. Also you can't know how she get in your way before you ask you out and she refuses.Why would you allow a woman to get to you in that way? Who cares if she wants to meet. Why would you feel the need to send her a pic of that?
Just weird bro.
You let them know by ignoring themNope it's just letting her know she can't fvck around with you. Also you can't know how she get in your way before you ask you out and she refuses.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Its funny to fvck with hear head a bit before fvcking her offYou let them know by ignoring them
It lowers your value.Its funny to fvck with hear head a bit before fvcking her off
If a woman doesn't want to meet up and just wants to talk that's because she's an attention whoare. She can get all the attention she wants and you can't make a move because you'll never get anywhere near her.I am just thinking that if you have a sexy and attractive vibe , while she is super talkative with you , she would be more than happy to meet
No it doesn't, you shouldn't give a fvck what value you have in any girls eyes. It only matters how you see yourself.It lowers your value.
If you feel the need to be reactionary based on a random woman, you have lowered your value to yourself. It's the mindset that is important not the individual action.No it doesn't, you shouldn't give a fvck what value you have in any girls eyes. It only matters how you see yourself.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
As I stated it's doing stuff for entertainment basis, nothing ego or anything, don't see nothing wrongful with that or how it affects anything based to your value. . Everyone has different views and that's okay.If you feel the need to be reactionary based on a random woman, you have lowered your value to yourself. It's the mindset that is important not the individual action.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.