“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Why would a woman be super talkative with you but never meet ?
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Thanks for asking about my opinion through DM on this question. I think you are a new member/new profile here so first off welcome to sosuave, its valuable reading through threads here.
It states your age is 120 on your profile. Congrats for living that long, you will be another valuable member here.
If that's a bit of a joke, ok. So if a joke, one has to guess at what real age is. Of course, you have the option to not reveal your age at all, too. If you go to your profile settings you can hide your birthdate and leave the age line empty under privacy/preferences.
About your thread and DM question, what we all agree to on sosuave is that its an undeniable fact that women love Attention as much as men love Sex.
Talking is one of the ways women like to get this Attention.
It is so loved to get this Attention, she may be afraid that by meeting up, the talking will stop or at least slow down. Because meeting up is a type of 'isolate and escalate' move that may pressure her to have the Sex the man wants when she's perfectly content to just keep talking-because she's getting the Attention (her version of Sex for a man)
So, knowing this fact. To game her into meeting up in person, emphasize how much more talking you'll do in person, face to face. Make it sound like it will be a very comfortable and safe experience talking more than she can imagine, in person.
I'm writing what would make me personally, as a woman, feel comfortable.
That might get her out to meet you.
I don't know if you have any proof she's actually who she says she is yet. If its just been internet or texting with no live, nonrecorded voice call or live video conference type call how can you tell she is who she says she is?
So what you communicate is something called a 'neg' in order to get her to qualify herself to you.
That's all I've got right now, hopefully more members here join in to help you on your thread
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Simple. She isn't interested. Or at least has someone else she is more interested in and you are being kept as the backup or backup to the backup.
OP, unfortunately for you, each woman dictates what is attractive to her, not what you believe is or should be.
That is a fair overview , and very much appreciate it .
for me it is a little bit of a non sense that you like a guy yet you dodge the ball to meeting up , but again I am a guy
I met her via day game , a couple of months ago , before this covid thing started , and since we could not get out We started texting with her more than I should have . So I know that I did a mistake here
for me it is a little bit of a non sense that you like a guy yet you dodge the ball to meeting up , but again I am a guy
I met her via day game , a couple of months ago , before this covid thing started , and since we could not get out We started texting with her more than I should have . So I know that I did a mistake here
actually I think that it might be the same reason on why girls will not meet with you after you escalate a lot but for some reason sex will not happen .
Like for example when you kiss her and then you tell her to come to your apartment
I guess that this happens because she knows what will happen and her hamster wheel starts spinning till everything crashes and burns
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
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That some reason is usually that they are not that interested.
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She probably likes the attention she gets by giving you false hope even tho she isn't interested. It's just an ego thing. If she texts me and doesn't want to meet I would send her a photo of other girl svcking me off.
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Why would you allow a woman to get to you in that way? Who cares if she wants to meet. Why would you feel the need to send her a pic of that?
Just weird bro.
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Nope it's just letting her know she can't fvck around with you. Also you can't know how she get in your way before you ask you out and she refuses.
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You let them know by ignoring them
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Its funny to fvck with hear head a bit before fvcking her off
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It lowers your value.
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If a woman doesn't want to meet up and just wants to talk that's because she's an attention whoare. She can get all the attention she wants and you can't make a move because you'll never get anywhere near her.
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No it doesn't, you shouldn't give a fvck what value you have in any girls eyes. It only matters how you see yourself.
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If you feel the need to be reactionary based on a random woman, you have lowered your value to yourself. It's the mindset that is important not the individual action.
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As I stated it's doing stuff for entertainment basis, nothing ego or anything, don't see nothing wrongful with that or how it affects anything based to your value. . Everyone has different views and that's okay.
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It's better to dangle the 'carrot' of your presence - rather than provide her with the fulfillment through the internet or phone.
Giving her the things that she desires (conversation and endless attention) freely and instantly and without work on her part... is basically the same as getting her off by proxy. And once she has emotionally 'climaxed' .. her hunger and desires aren't nearly as strong.
Think of it like this:
If a woman wants you in the sack. She's not going to give you a porn DVD and tell you to take care of yourself and then afterward, you call her in the bedroom. She's going to work you up to the point that your focus is on her and your desires are magnified .
Giving her the things that she desires (conversation and endless attention) freely and instantly and without work on her part... is basically the same as getting her off by proxy. And once she has emotionally 'climaxed' .. her hunger and desires aren't nearly as strong.
Think of it like this:
If a woman wants you in the sack. She's not going to give you a porn DVD and tell you to take care of yourself and then afterward, you call her in the bedroom. She's going to work you up to the point that your focus is on her and your desires are magnified .
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Advice from the old lady:
She's not interested. Period. Doesn't matter why. Maybe she's bored and you are her source of validation that day...but if she won't meet? She's not into you.
She's not interested. Period. Doesn't matter why. Maybe she's bored and you are her source of validation that day...but if she won't meet? She's not into you.
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A woman's motive for communication is different than guys.
Haven't you seen girls huddle up together in groups and chit chat about all sorts of bs in school? While guys play in their free times.
They emote heavily as they communicate.
Think romance novels, what's their biggest audience?
You guessed it right, women.
From a biological perspective, sex is a bigger investment from a woman's end than yours.
Her attraction level isn't high enough to warrant that to you.
For regular girls to want to sleep with you, she has to be emotionally invested in you far more than you are invested in her.
Most guys mess this up by emotionally investing too quickly too much.
Such a guy is dangerous because sex makes a guy a lot more emotionally involved - cue oneitis.
If a guy is going berserk without even sleeping with a woman, imagine the kind of threat he could be if he slept with her and she decided she doesn't want him, he'd go overboard.
Haven't you seen girls huddle up together in groups and chit chat about all sorts of bs in school? While guys play in their free times.
They emote heavily as they communicate.
Think romance novels, what's their biggest audience?
You guessed it right, women.
From a biological perspective, sex is a bigger investment from a woman's end than yours.
Her attraction level isn't high enough to warrant that to you.
For regular girls to want to sleep with you, she has to be emotionally invested in you far more than you are invested in her.
Most guys mess this up by emotionally investing too quickly too much.
Such a guy is dangerous because sex makes a guy a lot more emotionally involved - cue oneitis.
If a guy is going berserk without even sleeping with a woman, imagine the kind of threat he could be if he slept with her and she decided she doesn't want him, he'd go overboard.
@darksprezzatura @Black Widow Void I see the same thing happening when you escalate quite heavily and then you do not finish the job .
like for example if you kiss the girl before telling her to come to your place , most of the times she will not come and then become cold towards you out of the blue
do you think that also this is related to the girl not actually being into you that much ?
like for example if you kiss the girl before telling her to come to your place , most of the times she will not come and then become cold towards you out of the blue
do you think that also this is related to the girl not actually being into you that much ?
