TheAsianLoverReturns
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks!Sparky said:I found your video to be reasonably interesting and informative. Not sure you do yourself that many favours by constantly referring to them as "b*tches" - it kind of takes something away from what you're saying IMHO.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You have an advantage over most men. You might be getting flakes because women are finding guys with your attributes PLUSChamber36 said:what a pessimistic view, "She got a better deal".
I'm tall and handsome and I get plenty of flakes. You got to make these girls fall in love with you nowadays. I'm glad about the Winter/Summer thing though.
We should all be getting less flakes during the winter time.
bigneil said:I agree that often she cancels because she got a better deal, but not 99%.
A good percentage of the time they simply believe they could get a better deal.
Other times they just don't feel it (yet), as Chamber36 noted. For example, if they recently got dumped, they have one-itis for their ex and it takes time to overcome that.
As noted in the video, when they are interested, they will offer to make other plans.
I also agree that you have to make them work for it to see you again if they cancel (especially if they cancel twice). For example they send you 6 straight text messages, or offer to do something "to make it up to you".
Could be because I'm from the UK. Here in the UK if you say "B8tches" it either comes across as extremely derogatory or makes people sound like complete idiots through trying to sound like wannabe American Gangsters. It's only really used to refer to a woman that is nasty by nature. Probably a cultural difference.TheAsianLoverReturns said:Thanks!
Yeah I noticed that some of the guys on here don't like the word.
I find that curious.
A similar scenario is playing off with me. A girl I met when she had a BF, and we liked each other and hung out a few times, but I never managed to kiss her.bigneil said:Other times they just don't feel it (yet), as Chamber36 noted. For example, if they recently got dumped, they have one-itis for their ex and it takes time to overcome that.
As noted in the video, when they are interested, they will offer to make other plans.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I agree. Maybe it is a uk thing, but it does sound like something impressionable teenagers would say, trying to sound bad and "gangsta".Sparky said:Could be because I'm from the UK. Here in the UK if you say "B8tches" it either comes across as extremely derogatory or makes people sound like complete idiots through trying to sound like wannabe American Gangsters. It's only really used to refer to a woman that is nasty by nature. Probably a cultural difference.
Also - I didn't say I didn't LIKE the word. It has it's place. But to just refer to any woman as a b*tch I think makes the talker sound a bit naive.
I'm happy with it, adn have known many of them, I was just trying to point out to the OP that by saying it all the time for no reason, it makes whoever's saying it sound like a bit of a d*ck.Yo'Mama said:I'm from the UK, not remotely into 'gangsta' culture and am totally happy with the word '*****'. I accept that it's derogatory but don't see an issue with that.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yep. The onus is on U, and You, and Yoo. Now, I don't care How good you look, You, as a man, Must pursue, cause women, now more than ever, are Not going to seek You out at all. They are getting bombarded with "offers" ALL the time. I mean ALLLLL the time. I have just friends (or girls I've fvcked up with who I still talk to) that tell me that guys will hit on them at the gas pump, and they're relentless asking for her number (while all she's thinking is when will this pump ever finish..it's so god-damed slow!!").DonGorgon said:women have 10000000 F options you have 1 if you are lucky.. thats why..
word upTheAsianLoverReturns said:Thanks!
Yeah I noticed that some of the guys on here don't like the word.
I find that curious.
Yeah b*tches really hate being called c*nt. I never understood that.Aaron B said:word up
Personally I use it as a term of endearment
Most women aren't bothered by it in my experience
The C word is the one they don't like
Now that's interesting, especially the misogynistic part.Social_Leper said:Video is too simplistic. Calling all women '*****es' makes you come across as angry and misogynistic, which is slightly unfair since you do raise some valid points.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.