TheAsianLoverReturns
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thanks!Sparky said:I found your video to be reasonably interesting and informative. Not sure you do yourself that many favours by constantly referring to them as "b*tches" - it kind of takes something away from what you're saying IMHO.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You have an advantage over most men. You might be getting flakes because women are finding guys with your attributes PLUSChamber36 said:what a pessimistic view, "She got a better deal".
I'm tall and handsome and I get plenty of flakes. You got to make these girls fall in love with you nowadays. I'm glad about the Winter/Summer thing though.
We should all be getting less flakes during the winter time.
bigneil said:I agree that often she cancels because she got a better deal, but not 99%.
A good percentage of the time they simply believe they could get a better deal.
Other times they just don't feel it (yet), as Chamber36 noted. For example, if they recently got dumped, they have one-itis for their ex and it takes time to overcome that.
As noted in the video, when they are interested, they will offer to make other plans.
I also agree that you have to make them work for it to see you again if they cancel (especially if they cancel twice). For example they send you 6 straight text messages, or offer to do something "to make it up to you".
Could be because I'm from the UK. Here in the UK if you say "B8tches" it either comes across as extremely derogatory or makes people sound like complete idiots through trying to sound like wannabe American Gangsters. It's only really used to refer to a woman that is nasty by nature. Probably a cultural difference.TheAsianLoverReturns said:Thanks!
Yeah I noticed that some of the guys on here don't like the word.
I find that curious.
A similar scenario is playing off with me. A girl I met when she had a BF, and we liked each other and hung out a few times, but I never managed to kiss her.bigneil said:Other times they just don't feel it (yet), as Chamber36 noted. For example, if they recently got dumped, they have one-itis for their ex and it takes time to overcome that.
As noted in the video, when they are interested, they will offer to make other plans.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I agree. Maybe it is a uk thing, but it does sound like something impressionable teenagers would say, trying to sound bad and "gangsta".Sparky said:Could be because I'm from the UK. Here in the UK if you say "B8tches" it either comes across as extremely derogatory or makes people sound like complete idiots through trying to sound like wannabe American Gangsters. It's only really used to refer to a woman that is nasty by nature. Probably a cultural difference.
Also - I didn't say I didn't LIKE the word. It has it's place. But to just refer to any woman as a b*tch I think makes the talker sound a bit naive.
I'm happy with it, adn have known many of them, I was just trying to point out to the OP that by saying it all the time for no reason, it makes whoever's saying it sound like a bit of a d*ck.Yo'Mama said:I'm from the UK, not remotely into 'gangsta' culture and am totally happy with the word '*****'. I accept that it's derogatory but don't see an issue with that.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yep. The onus is on U, and You, and Yoo. Now, I don't care How good you look, You, as a man, Must pursue, cause women, now more than ever, are Not going to seek You out at all. They are getting bombarded with "offers" ALL the time. I mean ALLLLL the time. I have just friends (or girls I've fvcked up with who I still talk to) that tell me that guys will hit on them at the gas pump, and they're relentless asking for her number (while all she's thinking is when will this pump ever finish..it's so god-damed slow!!").DonGorgon said:women have 10000000 F options you have 1 if you are lucky.. thats why..
word upTheAsianLoverReturns said:Thanks!
Yeah I noticed that some of the guys on here don't like the word.
I find that curious.
Yeah b*tches really hate being called c*nt. I never understood that.Aaron B said:word up
Personally I use it as a term of endearment
Most women aren't bothered by it in my experience
The C word is the one they don't like
Now that's interesting, especially the misogynistic part.Social_Leper said:Video is too simplistic. Calling all women '*****es' makes you come across as angry and misogynistic, which is slightly unfair since you do raise some valid points.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.