TheAsianLoverReturns
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks!Sparky said:I found your video to be reasonably interesting and informative. Not sure you do yourself that many favours by constantly referring to them as "b*tches" - it kind of takes something away from what you're saying IMHO.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You have an advantage over most men. You might be getting flakes because women are finding guys with your attributes PLUSChamber36 said:what a pessimistic view, "She got a better deal".
I'm tall and handsome and I get plenty of flakes. You got to make these girls fall in love with you nowadays. I'm glad about the Winter/Summer thing though.
We should all be getting less flakes during the winter time.
bigneil said:I agree that often she cancels because she got a better deal, but not 99%.
A good percentage of the time they simply believe they could get a better deal.
Other times they just don't feel it (yet), as Chamber36 noted. For example, if they recently got dumped, they have one-itis for their ex and it takes time to overcome that.
As noted in the video, when they are interested, they will offer to make other plans.
I also agree that you have to make them work for it to see you again if they cancel (especially if they cancel twice). For example they send you 6 straight text messages, or offer to do something "to make it up to you".
Could be because I'm from the UK. Here in the UK if you say "B8tches" it either comes across as extremely derogatory or makes people sound like complete idiots through trying to sound like wannabe American Gangsters. It's only really used to refer to a woman that is nasty by nature. Probably a cultural difference.TheAsianLoverReturns said:Thanks!
Yeah I noticed that some of the guys on here don't like the word.
I find that curious.
A similar scenario is playing off with me. A girl I met when she had a BF, and we liked each other and hung out a few times, but I never managed to kiss her.bigneil said:Other times they just don't feel it (yet), as Chamber36 noted. For example, if they recently got dumped, they have one-itis for their ex and it takes time to overcome that.
As noted in the video, when they are interested, they will offer to make other plans.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I agree. Maybe it is a uk thing, but it does sound like something impressionable teenagers would say, trying to sound bad and "gangsta".Sparky said:Could be because I'm from the UK. Here in the UK if you say "B8tches" it either comes across as extremely derogatory or makes people sound like complete idiots through trying to sound like wannabe American Gangsters. It's only really used to refer to a woman that is nasty by nature. Probably a cultural difference.
Also - I didn't say I didn't LIKE the word. It has it's place. But to just refer to any woman as a b*tch I think makes the talker sound a bit naive.
I'm happy with it, adn have known many of them, I was just trying to point out to the OP that by saying it all the time for no reason, it makes whoever's saying it sound like a bit of a d*ck.Yo'Mama said:I'm from the UK, not remotely into 'gangsta' culture and am totally happy with the word '*****'. I accept that it's derogatory but don't see an issue with that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yep. The onus is on U, and You, and Yoo. Now, I don't care How good you look, You, as a man, Must pursue, cause women, now more than ever, are Not going to seek You out at all. They are getting bombarded with "offers" ALL the time. I mean ALLLLL the time. I have just friends (or girls I've fvcked up with who I still talk to) that tell me that guys will hit on them at the gas pump, and they're relentless asking for her number (while all she's thinking is when will this pump ever finish..it's so god-damed slow!!").DonGorgon said:women have 10000000 F options you have 1 if you are lucky.. thats why..
word upTheAsianLoverReturns said:Thanks!
Yeah I noticed that some of the guys on here don't like the word.
I find that curious.
Yeah b*tches really hate being called c*nt. I never understood that.Aaron B said:word up
Personally I use it as a term of endearment
Most women aren't bothered by it in my experience
The C word is the one they don't like
Now that's interesting, especially the misogynistic part.Social_Leper said:Video is too simplistic. Calling all women '*****es' makes you come across as angry and misogynistic, which is slightly unfair since you do raise some valid points.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.