Dhoulmagus
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It's like becoming a running joke for me right now. Especially when guys know exactly the number of days it's been.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why so many posts about NC here
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
logicallefty
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NC is discussed here a lot because it is one of our most powerful DJ tools and it's applicable in many of the situations we talk about.Dhoulmagus said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It's because so many guys only start searching the internet for dating advice AFTER they've been f*cked over by a girl.
They come here and post bitter sh*t, ask questions they don't learn from, and then "fall in love" with some new b*tch and leave for a year or two. Then when that girl dumps them they come back here and the cycle continues. Etc. etc. etc.
Thus the vast majority of threads here are about:
1) What to do when a chick f*cks you over (no contact, etc).
2) How evil women are.
It does get pretty comical after awhile.
EDIT:
Here are two that I read after making this post... hahahaa
1) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=223162
2) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=223160
Two for two!
They come here and post bitter sh*t, ask questions they don't learn from, and then "fall in love" with some new b*tch and leave for a year or two. Then when that girl dumps them they come back here and the cycle continues. Etc. etc. etc.
Thus the vast majority of threads here are about:
1) What to do when a chick f*cks you over (no contact, etc).
2) How evil women are.
It does get pretty comical after awhile.
EDIT:
Here are two that I read after making this post... hahahaa
1) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=223162
It's the old "I got f*cked over, then I read stuff I didn't learn anything from, then I got f*cked over again..." thread.
2) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=223160
It's the "all women are evil" thread.
Two for two!