"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why should I have to pay for dates

Dhoulmagus

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Woman make equal pay now, I am not trying to marry her, and we both have our own goals. I could fully understand back then, but now it is pointless. Especially with the numuerous low quality of girls in this country. I say if she makes you pay than she has to put out that night.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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marmel75

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You don't have to pay. It doesn't shed a favorable light on you however. Typically if you invite someone to a place it's common courtesy that you pay unless other arrangements are made prior. Now if she invited you, then the same rules would apply and I would expect her to pay for it.

I understand the younger generation was largely raised without manners, knowledge of common courtesy or tact, so I don't take for granted anymore that this would be common sense.
 

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Because women only want "equality" in the parts that benefit them.

If you don't want to pay, it's easy. Just take them to a cheap coffee place where both of you will have to go dutch.

Never take them out on proper dates and if you're good looking, you can even ask them to pay for your food.
 

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Because women only want "equality" in the parts that benefit them.

If you don't want to pay, it's easy. Just take them to a cheap coffee place where both of you will have to go dutch.

Never take them out on proper dates and if you're good looking, you can even ask them to pay for your food.
That's what I do haha.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Not only do you NOT have to pay for dates.. but you don't have GO on dates to begin with.

I never ask women out on "dates". I just invite them to do something I am already doing. I don't believe in "dates". Dates are way too structured and rooted in beta submission. I say beta submission because most men go on dates because it is what they are "supposed to do".

Nothing says BETA like always following other people's rules.
 

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You don't. A lot of women expect to go half.

I pay if I invite anyone (women and men) to a function. If a woman reaches out to me and suggests a place she would like to go, the expectation is that she will pay.
 

marmel75

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You don't. A lot of women expect to go half.

I pay if I invite anyone (women and men) to a function. If a woman reaches out to me and suggests a place she would like to go, the expectation is that she will pay.
Yes, that is because you understand common courtesy and social sense. A lot of people, especially younger people, don't.
 

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Can someone share how you go about asking your date or invite to pay their share, give us some examples.
Eg 'Do you want to go to ABC together?' 'Im going to ABC, you're welcome to join me/come along.'

With European women I say something like, 'Would you like to come to ABC, we can split the bill so there's no pressure.' If I like her and I feel she's not a drainer, I'll shout a drink or two, but later in the night. That's always worked well for me.

I don't go out on so called dates at all though. I set up the deal and contact the women who have genuine IOI and go from there.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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