"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why should I have to pay for dates

Dhoulmagus

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Woman make equal pay now, I am not trying to marry her, and we both have our own goals. I could fully understand back then, but now it is pointless. Especially with the numuerous low quality of girls in this country. I say if she makes you pay than she has to put out that night.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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marmel75

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You don't have to pay. It doesn't shed a favorable light on you however. Typically if you invite someone to a place it's common courtesy that you pay unless other arrangements are made prior. Now if she invited you, then the same rules would apply and I would expect her to pay for it.

I understand the younger generation was largely raised without manners, knowledge of common courtesy or tact, so I don't take for granted anymore that this would be common sense.
 

El Payaso

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Because women only want "equality" in the parts that benefit them.

If you don't want to pay, it's easy. Just take them to a cheap coffee place where both of you will have to go dutch.

Never take them out on proper dates and if you're good looking, you can even ask them to pay for your food.
 

Dhoulmagus

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Because women only want "equality" in the parts that benefit them.

If you don't want to pay, it's easy. Just take them to a cheap coffee place where both of you will have to go dutch.

Never take them out on proper dates and if you're good looking, you can even ask them to pay for your food.
That's what I do haha.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Poon King

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Not only do you NOT have to pay for dates.. but you don't have GO on dates to begin with.

I never ask women out on "dates". I just invite them to do something I am already doing. I don't believe in "dates". Dates are way too structured and rooted in beta submission. I say beta submission because most men go on dates because it is what they are "supposed to do".

Nothing says BETA like always following other people's rules.
 

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You don't. A lot of women expect to go half.

I pay if I invite anyone (women and men) to a function. If a woman reaches out to me and suggests a place she would like to go, the expectation is that she will pay.
 

marmel75

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You don't. A lot of women expect to go half.

I pay if I invite anyone (women and men) to a function. If a woman reaches out to me and suggests a place she would like to go, the expectation is that she will pay.
Yes, that is because you understand common courtesy and social sense. A lot of people, especially younger people, don't.
 

HeadLightsOn

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Can someone share how you go about asking your date or invite to pay their share, give us some examples.
Eg 'Do you want to go to ABC together?' 'Im going to ABC, you're welcome to join me/come along.'

With European women I say something like, 'Would you like to come to ABC, we can split the bill so there's no pressure.' If I like her and I feel she's not a drainer, I'll shout a drink or two, but later in the night. That's always worked well for me.

I don't go out on so called dates at all though. I set up the deal and contact the women who have genuine IOI and go from there.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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