"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why is it always me that has to get out of people's way?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
user43770
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Taking big strides, swinging your arms freely, keeping your head up at all times. This is how you should walk.
You don't stare at the ground, walk feebly and wait for someone to recognize you.
A man should make his space known. By doing this, you let everyone else know that you respect yourself. You aren't a pushover.
Always own your space.
@user252009
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Yeah, you can never walk in a perfectly straight line for long, but there's definitely a way to reduce having to move out of the way annoyingly often. Combined with looking up and planning ahead you'll be walking pretty efficiently through a crowd, because you won't be moving last second all the time, you'll adjust your path just slightly in advance. Has the added benefit of looking more confident and intentional so people will move to let you pass more frequently.
Yes. TheProspect, RickTheToad, and BackInTheGame78 are also new mods.
user43770
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user43770
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Your post goes back to what I was saying about situational awareness. You should always be looking ahead to see who's coming towards you.
It could be a humongous dude with a mean look on his face. Obviously, I'm getting out of his way.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.