"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why is it always me that has to get out of people's way?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Taking big strides, swinging your arms freely, keeping your head up at all times. This is how you should walk.
You don't stare at the ground, walk feebly and wait for someone to recognize you.
A man should make his space known. By doing this, you let everyone else know that you respect yourself. You aren't a pushover.
Always own your space.
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Yeah, you can never walk in a perfectly straight line for long, but there's definitely a way to reduce having to move out of the way annoyingly often. Combined with looking up and planning ahead you'll be walking pretty efficiently through a crowd, because you won't be moving last second all the time, you'll adjust your path just slightly in advance. Has the added benefit of looking more confident and intentional so people will move to let you pass more frequently.
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Your post goes back to what I was saying about situational awareness. You should always be looking ahead to see who's coming towards you.
It could be a humongous dude with a mean look on his face. Obviously, I'm getting out of his way.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.