"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why is girl fvkin on the first date a red flag?

Goksjrr

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I've read some comments here regarding girls who are willing to fuvk on the first date. You are saying that those women must be avoided. But why is that? I think that it would be a red flag, IF you are looking for a relationship with the girl, but wouldn't they make a great fuvk buddy material?

Also, does anyone here invite themself to their place(or the girl to come to your place) for the first date? It would set the tone right away if all you're looking for is sex.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BackInTheGame78

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Maybe it should be a red flag depending on if you are looking for a quality woman or not.
 

Roober

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Do you think your the only man she will fvck on the first date?

Think about it...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GoodOne123

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I think the opposite is a red flag. If she doesn't sleep with me within the 1st or 2nd date then that's when I start to become suspicious.

In my experience If a girl doesnt put out soon she is either a timewasting attention *****, or she is a psycho looking to gain control over me.

In my opinion judging a girl for sex on the first date is a very old and outdated mindset. Nowadays it's a pretty common thing
 

teacha

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Do you think your the only man she will fvck on the first date?

Think about it...
An overwhelming majority of women will have sex on the first night if their sexual attraction for that person is high enough.

If she’s making you wait, it basically means she has low interest and/or is playing games.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HoneyHitter

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Hitting it on the first (or second) date eliminates low interest women and AWs.

After that it’s reduced to eliminating sluts to find a decent woman
 

Goksjrr

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Would you be just straightforward and set up the date at her/my place for the 2nd date, or still go somewhere else and just invite her/you over after?
Maybe straight to one's place would indicate that you don't want to get serious with her and alternatively going for some "traditional" date set up would indicate that you'd be willing to put some work and time into her?
 

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As others have said before most girls would **** on the first date. It just depends on the guy and her state of mind.
Wouldn't say it's a red flag unless you possibly want something more serious but even then I wouldn't put too much emphasis on it.
 

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Whether they put out on the first date or not doesn't really matter if you're looking for something short term.
What matters is that experience has taught many succesful men at this site that women who don't jump into bed with you on the first date has turned out to be better as long term options, everytime. It's happening too many times for it to be a coincidence.
And note the difference between making you wait deliberately (game playing) and just letting it progress somewhat naturally, with keyword progress.
The former you dismiss, the latter you embrace.

Why is that? I guess it's about her showing healthy self-esteem by placing some value on herself and her body but this is of course pure speculation. The dating landscape looks very different today than 20 years ago so having sex on the first date is more accepted now than before.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lookatu

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I agree with many others. Just note that sex does not happen with normal gals without them feeling comfort and safety. A gal needs to feel this before she will have sex. It's your job to offer this and the better you are at this, the faster you can make her feel that and thus faster to sex. As for the bpd or crazy ones, this doesn't apply.
 
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