Any relationships that you break apart have something to do with you.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why even bother with a long relationship?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
ooh that's good, sig'd
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
well if she's already DTF nothing you can do about that except decide if the risk is worth the reward
I was thinking of it in a context of going out of your way to seduce a chick with a bf
logicallefty
Moderator
Let me clarify what I said I don't think I was clear. What I meant by that was if a woman has a boyfriend or a husband, no thanks! I have other options. I have no reason to take the risk involved in making moves on another man's woman . Sleeping with her, etc. Women that are taken and sleep around can very easily change their mind the next day when they go back to their own man and then accuse the guy they cheated with of rape because they had an emotional shift. Not worth the trouble.
Unlikely.
Just sounds like you're afraid of people to be honest. That's ok though.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I would never go out of my way to chase a woman with a BF.
That would be desperate.
logicallefty
Moderator
That is exactly my point. It's not worth it. Especially when you always have other options available to that don't have the BF factor.
Jetleg
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No, that has nothing to do with evolution.And Its not the strongest ("alpha") who survives, i hope you know it.
if you meant biology, then yes, she would look for another men to f*ck.
but you know whats funny? i dont give a f*ck because i got enough options.
Sometimes i feel people in this forum should chill a bit with this alpha and beta thing.