Why even bother with a long relationship?

[Jetleg]

I havent been here for a while now... been very busy with work and university.

I have met this one chick in a bar. She lives about 100km from my city. I didn't really feel like meeting her because i dont have so much time at the moment, but she was kinda hot so i went for it, whatever.

Long story short, we had sex one time,it was pretty crazy, she swallowed my s*men and we did some wild stuff. She told me a couple days after that she has a BF. she told me she loves him (yeah right) but he doesnt excite her the way i do. She even said she'd let me do anal with her, and she never did it with her BF. needless to say i wont have sex with her again, because i hate to think about the fact it that i could be the one on the other side as well, i've been there before.

Now, honestly, i dont give a f*ck about her, but i do give some f*ck about her poor BF, as i said, could happen to anyone. from "that" guy prespective, who she is cheating with, this is the best thing ever, you get the best sex while giving ZERO investment, while the poor BF is getting that lame sex, she probably doesnt even give him oral anymore.

So why even bother having a GF if even after X years with her you'll NEVER f*ck her like some lover will get to f*ck her? its like buying a cow and giving away its milk for free.

 

[bigneil]

You obviously do still give a (care) about her or you wouldn't be asking the advice of anonymous members.

The reason we bother? Because over time feelings grow stronger, and if you find someone who you have instant chemistry with and then stay with them for a long time, the feeling of holding them is incredible. Also, they become more loyal. I think relationships are coming back in style.

 

[Juanto]

I havent been here for a while now... been very busy with work and university.

I have met this one chick in a bar. She lives about 100km from my city. I didn't really feel like meeting her because i dont have so much time at the moment, but she was kinda hot so i went for it, whatever.

Long story short, we had sex one time,it was pretty crazy, she swallowed my s*men and we did some wild stuff. She told me a couple days after that she has a BF. she told me she loves him (yeah right) but he doesnt excite her the way i do. She even said she'd let me do anal with her, and she never did it with her BF. needless to say i wont have sex with her again, because i hate to think about the fact it that i could be the one on the other side as well, i've been there before.

Now, honestly, i dont give a f*ck about her, but i do give some f*ck about her poor BF, as i said, could happen to anyone. from "that" guy prespective, who she is cheating with, this is the best thing ever, you get the best sex while giving ZERO investment, while the poor BF is getting that lame sex, she probably doesnt even give him oral anymore.

So why even bother having a GF if even after X years with her you'll NEVER f*ck her like some lover will get to f*ck her? its like buying a cow and giving away its milk for free.

Up to the bf to fvuck her properly and get crazy on her. If he doesnt do that , then its on him. And if she stops ****ing him regularly, time to move on

 

[logicallefty]

I'm right with you on the BF thing, OP. I always feel bad for men who's women cheat on them, even when I don't know the brother at all. I won't touch women who I know are taken. I will flurt and maybe a little kino and make my interests known, but I won't make any moves out of respect for her guy.

 

[Urbanyst]

Kind of stupid to deny yourself pleasure to protect some dude you don't even know.

Her BF could be cheating on her too for all you know. None of your business really. Your business is your penis and your time. Why are you worried about some other dude's penis and time?

I know I sound like a d*ck, but its not my job our yours to be the relationship police for some hoe.

 

[Jetleg]

@Urbanyst

Maybe its just me but how could you enjoy sex when you know someone can get hurt by it?

Im not the most moral person but i dont get it

 

[Urbanyst]

@Urbanyst

Maybe its just me but how could you enjoy sex when you know someone can get hurt by it?

Im not the most moral person but i dont get it

Haha, if you can only enjoy life when everyone around you is happy, then prepare to never enjoy life.

If you care more about her BF's feelings than his woman does, maybe you should just date him instead.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Even if you back off the girl, who's to say that the next guy who comes along for her will not be a lot worse than you? He could be a clinger or a stalker, and try to steal the girl away from the bf. Showing her a good time and then backing away without trying to insert yourself into her life is far from the worst thing that could happen.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Why bother with a LTR? So you don't have to bother with the hassle of finding serial short ones.

 

[devilkingx2]

the only reason would be if you don't want to go through the effort of spinning plates 24/7, but in the long run laziness will only hurt you

or if you're marrying into a rich/powerful family or something like that.

 

[devilkingx2]

@Urbanyst

Maybe its just me but how could you enjoy sex when you know someone can get hurt by it?

Im not the most moral person but i dont get it

it's smart not to get yourself beaten up by angry or crazy boyfriends just to smash some dumb slvt dude. don't let anyone who puts pvssy over smart decisions tell you otherwise.

also you don't want to get a bad rep of being a complete *******, it works wonders with women but not with you know, having a good social standing with bros

 

[Urbanyst]

it's smart not to get yourself beaten up by angry or crazy boyfriends just to smash some dumb slvt dude. don't let anyone who puts pvssy over smart decisions tell you otherwise.

also you don't want to get a bad rep of being a complete *******, it works wonders with women but not with you know, having a good social standing with bros

Only fake people worry about their image.

Avoiding drama is a good reason. I agree with that. The image stuff is for conformist followers. Be who you are, not who your bros expect.

 

[devilkingx2]

Only fake people worry about their image.

Avoiding drama is a good reason. I agree with that. The image stuff is for conformist followers. Be who you are, not who your bros expect.

no i mean the image stuff is important unless you want everyone to know you as that snake nobody trusts

image stuff that's just for vanity is pointless yeah, but not being on everyone's sh!tlist isn't just being shallow lol.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Haha, if you can only enjoy life when everyone around you is happy, then prepare to never enjoy life.

If you care more about her BF's feelings than his woman does, maybe you should just date him instead.

What goes around comes around.

I can tell you that if some man slept with my mother and my dad found out about it, he would kill him and my mother and wouldn't lose the slightest bit of sleep over it either. And I can also tell you that he isn't the only one either; there are lots of other guys out there who would do the same.

Also, OP feels empathy and it sickens him to have sex with this woman because it reminds him of a situation he was once in. You could look deeper than just the surface level.

 

[SmooveMooves]

This question is equivalent to asking: "Why bother living if you're just going to die?"

There are pros and cons that come with LTRs and was as plate spinning. If you go about a LTR the right, way her being more excited to a fūck a new love shouldn't happen.

 

[Urbanyst]

no i mean the image stuff is important unless you want everyone to know you as that snake nobody trusts

image stuff that's just for vanity is pointless yeah, but not being on everyone's sh!tlist isn't just being shallow lol.

The girl cheating on your boyfriend is the bad person. Not the guy she is f*cking.

Btw..if she doesn't sleep with you, she will sleep with someone else. Being the relationship police won't save her poor BF who might already be cheating on her too for all you know.

No need to be a hero for people you don't even know. These people you are looking out for might be douche bags anyway.

 

[Urbanyst]

What goes around comes around.

I can tell you that if some man slept with my mother and my dad found out about it, he would kill him and my mother and wouldn't lose the slightest bit of sleep over it either. And I can also tell you that he isn't the only one either; there are lots of other guys out there who would do the same.

Also, OP feels empathy and it sickens him to have sex with this woman because it reminds him of a situation he was once in. You could look deeper than just the surface level.

The woman is the one f*cking up.

I'm not responsible for other people's relationships and neither are you. If your GF is cheating on you, the relationship is over anyway.

 

[Juanto]

Practical reason for me for not doing it is that you never know what kind of drama you are inviting to your life, or if the bf is some psycho guy.

The "moral" part, as seen here, is highly debatable so that is really a choice that would differ from individual to individual. However, the practical side of it no one can avoid or predict.

 

[bigneil]

I think the best thing to do nowadays in lieu of marriage is to have two savings accounts and you contribute to hers (while paying all her expenses ideally). If she wants to take her money and run, fine, but no future benefits once she leaves you. But women wouldn't like this because they already have guys promising to hire them for a job they can quit but still get paid for.

 

[bigneil]

The girl cheating on (her) boyfriend is the bad person. Not the guy she is f*cking.

This really isn't true. Women are easily led astray and men historically did not try to seduce other men's wives. It's one of the ten commandments.