Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
Whats YOUR motivation for lifting?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why do YOU lift?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
musclyjerk
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So many reasons and they all add to my quality of life.
The main reason I started was for a focus in life and to stop feeling like a skinny guy who couldn't hold his ground. EXAMPLE: I witnessed a good friend of mine get beaten bad a few years back by 2 guys and there was just nothing I could do. Nothing. I was too weak.... I wouldn't of standed a cat in hells chance. All I could do was shout 'leave it out guys!' (to which one of them approached me with a clenched fist.. and all I could do was step back like a B****) and wait until another member of the public (a very old frail man actually) came in to call it off. That's the kind of stuff that got to me. Not feeling like I could stand up in many situations.
The interest from girls, the fact other guys think twice about trying to knock you or belittle you (especially in front of chicks) and the fact I feel f****** great for it all is all a massive bonus.
The Muscly Jerk
The main reason I started was for a focus in life and to stop feeling like a skinny guy who couldn't hold his ground. EXAMPLE: I witnessed a good friend of mine get beaten bad a few years back by 2 guys and there was just nothing I could do. Nothing. I was too weak.... I wouldn't of standed a cat in hells chance. All I could do was shout 'leave it out guys!' (to which one of them approached me with a clenched fist.. and all I could do was step back like a B****) and wait until another member of the public (a very old frail man actually) came in to call it off. That's the kind of stuff that got to me. Not feeling like I could stand up in many situations.
The interest from girls, the fact other guys think twice about trying to knock you or belittle you (especially in front of chicks) and the fact I feel f****** great for it all is all a massive bonus.
The Muscly Jerk
I checked all of them:
I used to be the small frail kid that always got picked on. Since I've started lifting, everyone seems to be my friend and I get a lot more respect (I lift to fend off the bullies). Lifting raises my confidence (I lift to be a badass mofo) which helps with the girls (I lift for the Girls).
I was never good at team sports, so weightlifting offers me something where I can be competative against myself (I lift for a sport). Plus, directly due to weightlifting, I've been eating a lot healthier and am in great shape (I lift to stay healthy).
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I used to be the small frail kid that always got picked on. Since I've started lifting, everyone seems to be my friend and I get a lot more respect (I lift to fend off the bullies). Lifting raises my confidence (I lift to be a badass mofo) which helps with the girls (I lift for the Girls).
I was never good at team sports, so weightlifting offers me something where I can be competative against myself (I lift for a sport). Plus, directly due to weightlifting, I've been eating a lot healthier and am in great shape (I lift to stay healthy).
=)
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
Thats what I like to see. The more reasons you have, the more you'll strive.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
To be honest, it progressed. At first I was fed up of being the skinny guy that girls thought was "small", now I'm big and they all want to touch my arms, and I was voted "body of the school". Then it just grew, trying to beat my PB's and just enjoyment of the gym, networking with the big guys, a few bouncers, getting in the clubs free.....all came from lifting.
ThreeStorms
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One reason I will only reveal to the folks on this board:
To impress the people who always knew me as the skinny, nerdy guy.
To impress the people who always knew me as the skinny, nerdy guy.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Not really to be healthy - you can easily get injured lifting and it's not really that healthy for ya either. We would all be doing yoga and eating raw food if we wanted to be healthy.
To impress the girls? Naw, rather to NOT dispel any girls because of my looks
Lift for sport? You have to once you lift for awhile, it is in your head. But this is the effect not the cause.
Fend of the bullies? I am 180 right now and dudes still talk sh1t. There is always going to be someone bigger, I don't know, may be when I'm 220 it will stop
Last one is funny, but I don't think most guys will magically be 6"5 270.
I lift because I look in the mirror and say "Damn, I love myself" and it makes my day better.
To impress the girls? Naw, rather to NOT dispel any girls because of my looks
Lift for sport? You have to once you lift for awhile, it is in your head. But this is the effect not the cause.
Fend of the bullies? I am 180 right now and dudes still talk sh1t. There is always going to be someone bigger, I don't know, may be when I'm 220 it will stop
Last one is funny, but I don't think most guys will magically be 6"5 270.
I lift because I look in the mirror and say "Damn, I love myself" and it makes my day better.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
You can get easily injured doing yoga as well. Lifting is healthy, whether you think so or not lol.Oxide said:
Lift for a sport. I didn't mean because lifting has become a sport to you, I meant such as adding strength for sports such as football or increasing your speed for track or something.Oxide said:
I coulda put that on there too. Option #6 "I lift because I find myself attractive' lol:rockon:Oxide said:
Keep liftin bro
Awesome logic. guess what, you are gay, whether you think so or not, lol!
Tell this to the guy with scars in his lower back from the surgery because he pushed himself on the squats. Or many guys who fukked up their rotator cuffs from military presses. It is not all about the form too. There are many things that just accidentaly fukk up and you can be changed for life.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
There are freak injuries in just about everything you do. Lifting IS healthy. Improves your muscular fitness, strength, ability to handle every day tasks. Increases bone strength, which decreases the risk of breaks. Many lifts also improve flexibility and joint strenght/mobility.
As for me being gay, thats just a no-no. Exit only please lol.
As for me being gay, thats just a no-no. Exit only please lol.
md3sign
Senior Don Juan
girls, health, and being a big mofo
what other reasons are there?
what other reasons are there?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
For the ladieeeeessss! yea! :rockon:
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
I lift to be a bad ass mofo
Check it.
Check it.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
I'll admit, I started out for the ladies, then got into the athletic aspect of it, now I just want to be a big, quick,strong as f*ck beastly mother f*cker
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
to be healthy and to look good.
lifting is only unhealthy/dangerous if you are doing too much or using improper form. I know that if I don't eat good and workout; I feel like ****. If I do workout and eat proper, I feel great.
lifting is only unhealthy/dangerous if you are doing too much or using improper form. I know that if I don't eat good and workout; I feel like ****. If I do workout and eat proper, I feel great.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.