"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Why do married people say they love their kids but hate being married?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Most people live boring lives as they get older, 2 weeks vacation, go somewhere, come back to the daily grind. Where did the passion go, where’s the romance. Well work and monotony are to blame and complacency.
Most guys are getting to late 30’s early 40’s couple kids, overweight wife, tons of debt, and working their asses off for an ungrateful wife that doesn’t want your love or doesn’t give it back or she nags you about dishes and stupid ****ing chores. And you wonder why marriage is stressful.
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I fail to see why 40yrs old and older guys marry women their own age given the mental/emotional baggage they have, their unattractive body shape and the laws at work against them...
Even if they do for the "validation" I dont see whats the achievement to get spoiled goods losing value by the hour, if they do it for companionship or love then its even worse, its like drinking beer to heal from an hangover.
Decisions taken out of fear or to try to fit in are never good decisions.
most 40 year old guys look like complete garbage though to be fair
We like to think we will all be like Clooney and Pitt - 90% of guys at 40 are fat, bald and very lame
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Thats an extra reason to avoid getting married, when you basically offer no incentive for her to be loyal nor turn her on physically.
I dont chase girls when I'm out of shape cause the cost/benefits ratio is low, huge amount of work that would be better spent to get back in shape and cash dividends later.
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Speak from experience? I've heard the same from a lot of men. I thank G-d I do not have to deal with that.
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A man and a woman create another person. Usually, that creates a bond with the child and their parents. That is why parents say they love their kids... Their blood. Their spouse is their partner, but not their blood. They would only be "family" by a legal decree, not by family bloodline. Whereas, an offspring is of family bloodline. Hence, usually unconditional love.
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In respect to this, some actually believed in love and wanting to make their partner happy. It's just amazing how a piece of paper changes everything.
DON'T DO IT!!!!!
I have yet to find or meet a happily married man.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Yea, but they do ensure indentured servitude for some. LOL.
a year ago I met this girl I liked her and she liked me we had a few truly romantic moments but she was so phlegmatic even if I hated her personality in a relationship (extremly) phlegmatic-melancholic I was committed to turn her into my love for life just because she was intelligent had a pretty face a back better than marble, etc. but because she liked me she pulled me off as if I was not a fellow huma. Even though she wasn't bossy and was extremely amicable adn intelligent she instinctively ordered me once to fight some cause for her (some classroom pettiness)
Fortunately now I've evolved And I'm serching for a sanguine woman and I don't know if it will go romantic or inhumane but at least that's the personality I like
but getting back to the question that's it males can become attracte to the mere female essence reagardless of how they'd like their woman to be and women just screen for a suitable nesting partner regardless of how they would like their man to be.