Why do married people say they love their kids but hate being married?

[bigdave17]

every married person I talk to says marriage itself is miserable but kids are fantastic


why are so few people happily married?

 

[Spaz]

They married for the wrong reasons, usually out of fear.

 

[CMNILS87]

They both settled most likely. The guy thinks by marrying. Girl he’ll get sex on tap whenever he wants, but how wrong he truly is. The moment you give up your freedom and marry is the moment she has won and becomes complacent.

Most people live boring lives as they get older, 2 weeks vacation, go somewhere, come back to the daily grind. Where did the passion go, where’s the romance. Well work and monotony are to blame and complacency.

Most guys are getting to late 30’s early 40’s couple kids, overweight wife, tons of debt, and working their asses off for an ungrateful wife that doesn’t want your love or doesn’t give it back or she nags you about dishes and stupid ****ing chores. And you wonder why marriage is stressful.

 

[Who Dares Win]

We cant screw up our biology, and if we screw up our biology plus law and culture add an extra hit it becomes a pain in the ass of a life.

I fail to see why 40yrs old and older guys marry women their own age given the mental/emotional baggage they have, their unattractive body shape and the laws at work against them...

Even if they do for the "validation" I dont see whats the achievement to get spoiled goods losing value by the hour, if they do it for companionship or love then its even worse, its like drinking beer to heal from an hangover.

Decisions taken out of fear or to try to fit in are never good decisions.

 

[bigdave17]

We cant screw up our biology, and if we screw up our biology plus law and culture add an extra hit it becomes a pain in the ass of a life.

I fail to see why 40yrs old and older guys marry women their own age given the mental/emotional baggage they have, their unattractive body shape and the laws at work against them...

Even if they do for the "validation" I dont see whats the achievement to get spoiled goods losing value by the hour, if they do it for companionship or love then its even worse, its like drinking beer to heal from an hangover.

Decisions taken out of fear or to try to fit in are never good decisions.

most 40 year old guys look like complete garbage though to be fair

We like to think we will all be like Clooney and Pitt - 90% of guys at 40 are fat, bald and very lame

 

[Who Dares Win]

most 40 year old guys look like complete garbage though to be fair

We like to think we will all be like Clooney and Pitt - 90% of guys at 40 are fat, bald and very lame

Thats an extra reason to avoid getting married, when you basically offer no incentive for her to be loyal nor turn her on physically.

I dont chase girls when I'm out of shape cause the cost/benefits ratio is low, huge amount of work that would be better spent to get back in shape and cash dividends later.

 

[CMNILS87]

Rings don’t plug holes

- a wise man

 

[R.U.G.]

They both settled most likely. The guy thinks by marrying. Girl he’ll get sex on tap whenever he wants, but how wrong he truly is. The moment you give up your freedom and marry is the moment she has won and becomes complacent.

Most people live boring lives as they get older, 2 weeks vacation, go somewhere, come back to the daily grind. Where did the passion go, where’s the romance. Well work and monotony are to blame and complacency.

Most guys are getting to late 30’s early 40’s couple kids, overweight wife, tons of debt, and working their asses off for an ungrateful wife that doesn’t want your love or doesn’t give it back or she nags you about dishes and stupid ****ing chores. And you wonder why marriage is stressful.

Speak from experience? I've heard the same from a lot of men. I thank G-d I do not have to deal with that.

 

[R.U.G.]

every married person I talk to says marriage itself is miserable but kids are fantastic


why are so few people happily married?

A man and a woman create another person. Usually, that creates a bond with the child and their parents. That is why parents say they love their kids... Their blood. Their spouse is their partner, but not their blood. They would only be "family" by a legal decree, not by family bloodline. Whereas, an offspring is of family bloodline. Hence, usually unconditional love.

 

[R.U.G.]

We cant screw up our biology, and if we screw up our biology plus law and culture add an extra hit it becomes a pain in the ass of a life.

I fail to see why 40yrs old and older guys marry women their own age given the mental/emotional baggage they have, their unattractive body shape and the laws at work against them...

Even if they do for the "validation" I dont see whats the achievement to get spoiled goods losing value by the hour, if they do it for companionship or love then its even worse, its like drinking beer to heal from an hangover.

Decisions taken out of fear or to try to fit in are never good decisions.

In respect to this, some actually believed in love and wanting to make their partner happy. It's just amazing how a piece of paper changes everything.

DON'T DO IT!!!!!

I have yet to find or meet a happily married man.

 

[R.U.G.]

Rings don’t plug holes

- a wise man

Yea, but they do ensure indentured servitude for some. LOL.

 

[top gear]

cause men tend to fall for a woman simply because she is a woman and women are inhumane towards their partners so to speak, they become providers or the person who they should ask for help when there's something they can't lift with their given strength.

a year ago I met this girl I liked her and she liked me we had a few truly romantic moments but she was so phlegmatic even if I hated her personality in a relationship (extremly) phlegmatic-melancholic I was committed to turn her into my love for life just because she was intelligent had a pretty face a back better than marble, etc. but because she liked me she pulled me off as if I was not a fellow huma. Even though she wasn't bossy and was extremely amicable adn intelligent she instinctively ordered me once to fight some cause for her (some classroom pettiness)

Fortunately now I've evolved And I'm serching for a sanguine woman and I don't know if it will go romantic or inhumane but at least that's the personality I like
but getting back to the question that's it males can become attracte to the mere female essence reagardless of how they'd like their woman to be and women just screen for a suitable nesting partner regardless of how they would like their man to be.