"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Why do married people say they love their kids but hate being married?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Most people live boring lives as they get older, 2 weeks vacation, go somewhere, come back to the daily grind. Where did the passion go, where’s the romance. Well work and monotony are to blame and complacency.
Most guys are getting to late 30’s early 40’s couple kids, overweight wife, tons of debt, and working their asses off for an ungrateful wife that doesn’t want your love or doesn’t give it back or she nags you about dishes and stupid ****ing chores. And you wonder why marriage is stressful.
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I fail to see why 40yrs old and older guys marry women their own age given the mental/emotional baggage they have, their unattractive body shape and the laws at work against them...
Even if they do for the "validation" I dont see whats the achievement to get spoiled goods losing value by the hour, if they do it for companionship or love then its even worse, its like drinking beer to heal from an hangover.
Decisions taken out of fear or to try to fit in are never good decisions.
most 40 year old guys look like complete garbage though to be fair
We like to think we will all be like Clooney and Pitt - 90% of guys at 40 are fat, bald and very lame
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Thats an extra reason to avoid getting married, when you basically offer no incentive for her to be loyal nor turn her on physically.
I dont chase girls when I'm out of shape cause the cost/benefits ratio is low, huge amount of work that would be better spent to get back in shape and cash dividends later.
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Speak from experience? I've heard the same from a lot of men. I thank G-d I do not have to deal with that.
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A man and a woman create another person. Usually, that creates a bond with the child and their parents. That is why parents say they love their kids... Their blood. Their spouse is their partner, but not their blood. They would only be "family" by a legal decree, not by family bloodline. Whereas, an offspring is of family bloodline. Hence, usually unconditional love.
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In respect to this, some actually believed in love and wanting to make their partner happy. It's just amazing how a piece of paper changes everything.
DON'T DO IT!!!!!
I have yet to find or meet a happily married man.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Yea, but they do ensure indentured servitude for some. LOL.
a year ago I met this girl I liked her and she liked me we had a few truly romantic moments but she was so phlegmatic even if I hated her personality in a relationship (extremly) phlegmatic-melancholic I was committed to turn her into my love for life just because she was intelligent had a pretty face a back better than marble, etc. but because she liked me she pulled me off as if I was not a fellow huma. Even though she wasn't bossy and was extremely amicable adn intelligent she instinctively ordered me once to fight some cause for her (some classroom pettiness)
Fortunately now I've evolved And I'm serching for a sanguine woman and I don't know if it will go romantic or inhumane but at least that's the personality I like
but getting back to the question that's it males can become attracte to the mere female essence reagardless of how they'd like their woman to be and women just screen for a suitable nesting partner regardless of how they would like their man to be.