"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I’ve been seeing this girl for a while and there is a part of me that wants her to say ‘I’ve found someone better than you.’

Am I crazy to feel this way? Some insight please.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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do you subconsciously want to get rid of her? or do you wish you had some competition to motivate you to fight for her and bring your A game? perhaps you secretly crave drama and excitement to spice up an otherwise dull day
 

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I’ve been seeing this girl for a while and there is a part of me that wants her to say ‘I’ve found someone better than you.’

Am I crazy to feel this way? Some insight please.
It's common, nothing to worry about.
 

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do you subconsciously want to get rid of her?
That’s a good question and it’s like I want to be her beta slave rather than having power and leverage because she looks good.

Got to remind myself, and you guys,

1. Take emotions out
2. Think logically
3. Go with the flow

Let’s go men!
 

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sounds like a fetish to me
Haha. Unlikely. I too have this thoughts when I'm done with a pretty girl but just wish she would find someone else so that I don't have to dump her and have all that ensuing drama.

There's a technique towards dumping a girl which involves her thinking she dumps you.:up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nope, that's always my biggest fear. Must be a fetish.
 
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