"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why do I feel this way? Insight please

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I’ve been seeing this girl for a while and there is a part of me that wants her to say ‘I’ve found someone better than you.’

Am I crazy to feel this way? Some insight please.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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do you subconsciously want to get rid of her? or do you wish you had some competition to motivate you to fight for her and bring your A game? perhaps you secretly crave drama and excitement to spice up an otherwise dull day
 

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I’ve been seeing this girl for a while and there is a part of me that wants her to say ‘I’ve found someone better than you.’

Am I crazy to feel this way? Some insight please.
It's common, nothing to worry about.
 

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do you subconsciously want to get rid of her?
That’s a good question and it’s like I want to be her beta slave rather than having power and leverage because she looks good.

Got to remind myself, and you guys,

1. Take emotions out
2. Think logically
3. Go with the flow

Let’s go men!
 

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sounds like a fetish to me
Haha. Unlikely. I too have this thoughts when I'm done with a pretty girl but just wish she would find someone else so that I don't have to dump her and have all that ensuing drama.

There's a technique towards dumping a girl which involves her thinking she dumps you.:up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nope, that's always my biggest fear. Must be a fetish.
 
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