spinaroonie
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... so much more than guys. What's the reason for it?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
horaholic said:...cuz they got nothing else going for them.
Nismo, I don´t want to put you down. But you need some medical help, really. You go around here always the same talk, of ***** market value, and they have life so easy etc...Don´t you get tired?nismo-4 said:Maxtro and Ice882, you made valid points.
Girls love the thrill of being in control, and guys love this thrill too, but guys love when their ego gets a boost. Sometimes just a kiss on the cheek can do this, but it'll get deflated when the girl says you're just a friend of IHAB.
Think about strippers. They get attention all the time and they love it. Women can have sex anytime, anywhere and can get a man just as quick, and they know it.
The power of pu$$Y gentlemen. And the market value too.
Actually, women do have power most of the time. I see it all the time around me, dudes being slapped around by their girl because she has the p*ssy and most guys are too pathetic to walk out. One of the guys from my dancing school has a 16 year old girlfriend, and he is 25, and she's slapping his ass around. Another couple had the guy wait for the chick for 2 years while she f*cked around and all he did was wait for her. A good friend of mine is nothing more than a slave to his girl, running around the house all the time doing stuff for her. Another girl I know got proposed to after 6 weeks of being in a relationship, because the guy is afraid of being alone.JdelaSilviera said:Nismo, I don´t want to put you down. But you need some medical help, really. You go around here always the same talk, of ***** market value, and they have life so easy etc...Don´t you get tired?
Women don´t have the power, though it might seem that way in a forum where most guys have problems with women....
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Again i think your perception of the situation is flawed.It used to be that modesty was a prized virtue among women. I used to believe that this was a function of patriarchy, male-domination etc. Now I think it was a way to keep the innate attention-wh*ring ways of women in check - keep the b*tches in line. With the institutions of patriarchy dismantled, we're now seeing the base natures of women coming to the fore. The modern American GRRRL is anything but shy and modest. But let's face it - no guy wants an attention-wh*re.
But fundamentally, where does women's need for attention come from?
Bible_Belt said:Why Do Girls Love Attention?
For hundreds of thousands of years, the only wealth that a woman ever had came from the man she married. Male attention is the wealth of women. That's their currency, as well as how they rank themselves amongst each other. The idea of a woman not needing a man to support her is still a very new idea in comparison to our long history. Psychology has not yet adjusted.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
vatoloco said:They come that way from the factory.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.