spinaroonie
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... so much more than guys. What's the reason for it?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
horaholic said:...cuz they got nothing else going for them.
Nismo, I don´t want to put you down. But you need some medical help, really. You go around here always the same talk, of ***** market value, and they have life so easy etc...Don´t you get tired?nismo-4 said:Maxtro and Ice882, you made valid points.
Girls love the thrill of being in control, and guys love this thrill too, but guys love when their ego gets a boost. Sometimes just a kiss on the cheek can do this, but it'll get deflated when the girl says you're just a friend of IHAB.
Think about strippers. They get attention all the time and they love it. Women can have sex anytime, anywhere and can get a man just as quick, and they know it.
The power of pu$$Y gentlemen. And the market value too.
Actually, women do have power most of the time. I see it all the time around me, dudes being slapped around by their girl because she has the p*ssy and most guys are too pathetic to walk out. One of the guys from my dancing school has a 16 year old girlfriend, and he is 25, and she's slapping his ass around. Another couple had the guy wait for the chick for 2 years while she f*cked around and all he did was wait for her. A good friend of mine is nothing more than a slave to his girl, running around the house all the time doing stuff for her. Another girl I know got proposed to after 6 weeks of being in a relationship, because the guy is afraid of being alone.JdelaSilviera said:Nismo, I don´t want to put you down. But you need some medical help, really. You go around here always the same talk, of ***** market value, and they have life so easy etc...Don´t you get tired?
Women don´t have the power, though it might seem that way in a forum where most guys have problems with women....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Again i think your perception of the situation is flawed.It used to be that modesty was a prized virtue among women. I used to believe that this was a function of patriarchy, male-domination etc. Now I think it was a way to keep the innate attention-wh*ring ways of women in check - keep the b*tches in line. With the institutions of patriarchy dismantled, we're now seeing the base natures of women coming to the fore. The modern American GRRRL is anything but shy and modest. But let's face it - no guy wants an attention-wh*re.
But fundamentally, where does women's need for attention come from?
Bible_Belt said:Why Do Girls Love Attention?
For hundreds of thousands of years, the only wealth that a woman ever had came from the man she married. Male attention is the wealth of women. That's their currency, as well as how they rank themselves amongst each other. The idea of a woman not needing a man to support her is still a very new idea in comparison to our long history. Psychology has not yet adjusted.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
vatoloco said:They come that way from the factory.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.