"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why Do Girls Love Attention?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Guys like attention too. Ever had a group of girls compliment you or run their fingers through your hair or smile at you and laugh? It feels pretty damn good.
 

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Maxtro and Ice882, you made valid points.

Girls love the thrill of being in control, and guys love this thrill too, but guys love when their ego gets a boost. Sometimes just a kiss on the cheek can do this, but it'll get deflated when the girl says you're just a friend of IHAB.

Think about strippers. They get attention all the time and they love it. Women can have sex anytime, anywhere and can get a man just as quick, and they know it.

The power of pu$$Y gentlemen. And the market value too.
 

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...cuz they got nothing else going for them.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why Do Girls Love Attention?


For hundreds of thousands of years, the only wealth that a woman ever had came from the man she married. Male attention is the wealth of women. That's their currency, as well as how they rank themselves amongst each other. The idea of a woman not needing a man to support her is still a very new idea in comparison to our long history. Psychology has not yet adjusted.
 

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daily life can get dull from time to time & like these guys said, don't you love feeling like a star? & truth be told girls value different things than guys, just look at what they value..
 

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nismo-4 said:
Maxtro and Ice882, you made valid points.

Girls love the thrill of being in control, and guys love this thrill too, but guys love when their ego gets a boost. Sometimes just a kiss on the cheek can do this, but it'll get deflated when the girl says you're just a friend of IHAB.

Think about strippers. They get attention all the time and they love it. Women can have sex anytime, anywhere and can get a man just as quick, and they know it.

The power of pu$$Y gentlemen. And the market value too.
Nismo, I don´t want to put you down. But you need some medical help, really. You go around here always the same talk, of ***** market value, and they have life so easy etc...Don´t you get tired?

Women don´t have the power, though it might seem that way in a forum where most guys have problems with women....
 

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JdelaSilviera said:
Nismo, I don´t want to put you down. But you need some medical help, really. You go around here always the same talk, of ***** market value, and they have life so easy etc...Don´t you get tired?

Women don´t have the power, though it might seem that way in a forum where most guys have problems with women....
Actually, women do have power most of the time. I see it all the time around me, dudes being slapped around by their girl because she has the p*ssy and most guys are too pathetic to walk out. One of the guys from my dancing school has a 16 year old girlfriend, and he is 25, and she's slapping his ass around. Another couple had the guy wait for the chick for 2 years while she f*cked around and all he did was wait for her. A good friend of mine is nothing more than a slave to his girl, running around the house all the time doing stuff for her. Another girl I know got proposed to after 6 weeks of being in a relationship, because the guy is afraid of being alone.

Most guys are not in control of a relationship, they'll do anything for a girl because they're afraid they get dumped.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It could be due to insecurity... And also cuz they're more social naturally, and talk more etc.

I just wanted to put that into the table, I don't know why tho... But VERY interresting question!

Also, girls evolved to be attractive, men not... Girls are the attractive sex psysiclly... I read that somewhere, it talked about the facial differences, men evolved to be more intimidating, dunno, does anyone understand what im talking about? I can try and find the link... Women evolved to be more pretty, basiclly. Maybe that's related.
 
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guys love attention just as much.

If I don't have attention given to me, I get bored of the group and walk to another group. Its natural to want to be either talked about or noticed.

women having the power? A good amount of power is given to girls by many guys. A thing that i had to learn was how to frame a relationship. I am still doing it on a consistent basis.

- comic_relief
 

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Women seek attention far more than men . Certainly it feels good to have ones ego stroked (and much of our desire for sex arises from the validation), but I don't think guys go actively seeking attention the way girls do. Guys want attention to score with girls; girls just want attention for attention's sake.

It used to be that modesty was a prized virtue among women. I used to believe that this was a function of patriarchy, male-domination etc. Now I think it was a way to keep the innate attention-wh*ring ways of women in check - keep the b*tches in line. With the institutions of patriarchy dismantled, we're now seeing the base natures of women coming to the fore. The modern American GRRRL is anything but shy and modest. But let's face it - no guy wants an attention-wh*re.

But fundamentally, where does women's need for attention come from?
 

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It used to be that modesty was a prized virtue among women. I used to believe that this was a function of patriarchy, male-domination etc. Now I think it was a way to keep the innate attention-wh*ring ways of women in check - keep the b*tches in line. With the institutions of patriarchy dismantled, we're now seeing the base natures of women coming to the fore. The modern American GRRRL is anything but shy and modest. But let's face it - no guy wants an attention-wh*re.

But fundamentally, where does women's need for attention come from?
Again i think your perception of the situation is flawed.

The patriarchy did not repress the base natures of women, it placed women in a position that best suited their base natures.

The attention of men is a woman's power. A man's power may be measured by his alpha status amongst other men and ability to spread genes, while a woman's power resides in her desirability.

An undesirable girl/a girl who cannot get attention of males, is the equivalent of a beta male. The attention is simply a measure of desirability of women. Your question was already answered anyway.

Bible_Belt said:
Why Do Girls Love Attention?


For hundreds of thousands of years, the only wealth that a woman ever had came from the man she married. Male attention is the wealth of women. That's their currency, as well as how they rank themselves amongst each other. The idea of a woman not needing a man to support her is still a very new idea in comparison to our long history. Psychology has not yet adjusted.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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But women from patriarchal cultures don't attention-wh*re like girls here.

I had a buddy from Singapore who did an exchange here. He commented on how LOUD the girls here were. I always thought this was how drunk girls acted, but later realized it was something I'd simply accepted since this was my reality. His remark did jolt me for a bit.
 

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Because they have the mentality of children. "Look at me! Look at me!!"
 

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vatoloco said:
They come that way from the factory.

Hahaha. They should announce a recall of some models...:)
 

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Why do guys like boobs?

It's useless to try to decipher the "WHY", but it's useful to understand that it "just is", specially when it's concerning illogical and emotional creatures like women.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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