Sayajin_Prince
Don Juan
it's a insecurity issue maybe? or is just that they don't give a **** to other traits?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you can't possibly be seriousOriginally posted by Sayajin_Prince
it seems they are more shallow than men in this area.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Pretty much.Originally posted by DeathDealer
i wouldn't call it shallow. it's no different from guys saying oh this girl is flat chested or whatever.
I dont agree with the above quote a women will only go with a guy if she feels some sort of attraction to him for example looks, personality, wealth, dominance. I dont think any girl would go with a guy who she is not attracted to unless shes a gold digger or using him for some other purpose or are you refering to physical attraction?Originally posted by Fenderules
no we still are.
an attractive woman will go with an a guy who she thinks is unattractive
cant say the same for men. its the first thing we look at it. It may be shallow but im not pretend that im not. i cant help it. It was how i was born and im not gonna hide it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Most women are just as shallow about looks as men are. I know I am. I do think I'm probably more shallow than a lot of women are, though, because I would NEVER date an unattractive millionaire. If I don't find a guy very attractive (especially their face) there is absolutely nothing they can do to interest me. I don't think most women are this shallow, though.Originally posted by Sayajin_Prince
it's a insecurity issue maybe? or is just that they don't give a **** to other traits?
Do you mean that they are criticizing men for looking masculine?Originally posted by Sayajin_Prince
it's a insecurity issue maybe? or is just that they don't give a **** to other traits?
I must say I disagree with that. I know this guy who many women say are good looking but he has never been on a date, had a girlfriend, or has ever even been kissed. Good looks are about as effective as a good sense of humor - they get you in the door, but they do not keep you in the house.They are the ones who do that. A guy could be a school janitor who's murdered 15 people.If the girls think he's cute he's gonna get ass.
That's just the way it is.
Well, it's fine for looks to play somewhat of a factor as far as initial interest goes - but any woman who will not even want to speak or have anything to do with a guy just because she doesn't think he's a 10 is extremely shallow. Women like this usually do not have anything going for THEMSELVES so therefore will be unable to appreciate any other qualities in somebody else.If I don't find a guy very attractive (especially their face) there is absolutely nothing they can do to interest me. I don't think most women are this shallow, though.
Come on man are you serious? She never said anything about the guy having to be a 10. Why is it alright for you as a man to not give a woman a chance because you don't like her looks but it isn't alright for a woman? I'd rather see a woman with a guy because of his looks than with an ugly guy that has money.Originally posted by Craig Reeves
Well, it's fine for looks to play somewhat of a factor as far as initial interest goes - but any woman who will not even want to speak or have anything to do with a guy just because she doesn't think he's a 10 is extremely shallow. Women like this usually do not have anything going for THEMSELVES so therefore will be unable to appreciate any other qualities in somebody else.
Biotch, please...Originally posted by Craig Reeves
Well, it's fine for looks to play somewhat of a factor as far as initial interest goes - but any woman who will not even want to speak or have anything to do with a guy just because she doesn't think he's a 10 is extremely shallow. Women like this usually do not have anything going for THEMSELVES so therefore will be unable to appreciate any other qualities in somebody else.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.