Sayajin_Prince
Don Juan
it's a insecurity issue maybe? or is just that they don't give a **** to other traits?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you can't possibly be seriousOriginally posted by Sayajin_Prince
it seems they are more shallow than men in this area.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Pretty much.Originally posted by DeathDealer
i wouldn't call it shallow. it's no different from guys saying oh this girl is flat chested or whatever.
I dont agree with the above quote a women will only go with a guy if she feels some sort of attraction to him for example looks, personality, wealth, dominance. I dont think any girl would go with a guy who she is not attracted to unless shes a gold digger or using him for some other purpose or are you refering to physical attraction?Originally posted by Fenderules
no we still are.
an attractive woman will go with an a guy who she thinks is unattractive
cant say the same for men. its the first thing we look at it. It may be shallow but im not pretend that im not. i cant help it. It was how i was born and im not gonna hide it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most women are just as shallow about looks as men are. I know I am. I do think I'm probably more shallow than a lot of women are, though, because I would NEVER date an unattractive millionaire. If I don't find a guy very attractive (especially their face) there is absolutely nothing they can do to interest me. I don't think most women are this shallow, though.Originally posted by Sayajin_Prince
it's a insecurity issue maybe? or is just that they don't give a **** to other traits?
Do you mean that they are criticizing men for looking masculine?Originally posted by Sayajin_Prince
it's a insecurity issue maybe? or is just that they don't give a **** to other traits?
I must say I disagree with that. I know this guy who many women say are good looking but he has never been on a date, had a girlfriend, or has ever even been kissed. Good looks are about as effective as a good sense of humor - they get you in the door, but they do not keep you in the house.They are the ones who do that. A guy could be a school janitor who's murdered 15 people.If the girls think he's cute he's gonna get ass.
That's just the way it is.
Well, it's fine for looks to play somewhat of a factor as far as initial interest goes - but any woman who will not even want to speak or have anything to do with a guy just because she doesn't think he's a 10 is extremely shallow. Women like this usually do not have anything going for THEMSELVES so therefore will be unable to appreciate any other qualities in somebody else.If I don't find a guy very attractive (especially their face) there is absolutely nothing they can do to interest me. I don't think most women are this shallow, though.
Come on man are you serious? She never said anything about the guy having to be a 10. Why is it alright for you as a man to not give a woman a chance because you don't like her looks but it isn't alright for a woman? I'd rather see a woman with a guy because of his looks than with an ugly guy that has money.Originally posted by Craig Reeves
Well, it's fine for looks to play somewhat of a factor as far as initial interest goes - but any woman who will not even want to speak or have anything to do with a guy just because she doesn't think he's a 10 is extremely shallow. Women like this usually do not have anything going for THEMSELVES so therefore will be unable to appreciate any other qualities in somebody else.
Biotch, please...Originally posted by Craig Reeves
Well, it's fine for looks to play somewhat of a factor as far as initial interest goes - but any woman who will not even want to speak or have anything to do with a guy just because she doesn't think he's a 10 is extremely shallow. Women like this usually do not have anything going for THEMSELVES so therefore will be unable to appreciate any other qualities in somebody else.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.